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writes:So... There's this guy I work with that I always thought was cute and friendly. He started on the job before me so once I got to know him a little better, I got up my courage and asked him if he wanted to hang out sometimes. He turned me down (and of course I think its because I'm a big girl and he's basically this perfect sex magnet and completely out of my league. So as the months went by I eventually got over being awkward around him and we became pretty close friends. But lately he's always saying something sexual to me about what he's done with a girl and asking me what I would have done in that situation or saying if I was his girlfriend things would be like they were with my ex. So I write a note telling him I'm feeling him and I think he's cute and what not and put it under his windshield wiper, with no name on it or no clue as to who I am (I know, totally high school right?)Anyways, IO haven't been back to work since and I don't know where to go from here. Someone PLEASE help me! LOL
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reader, Lizziebadazz +, writes (21 April 2011):
Lizziebadazz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk last update. He didn't go for it. I feel like a less confident than I should. But thanks for the advice guys!
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reader, Lizziebadazz +, writes (20 April 2011):
Lizziebadazz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay update guys! I recently found out that this guy has a facebook page, so I came clean to him in a message (I know, I'm still being a coward)and let him know that I left the note and that I would really like to keep our friendship intact even if he wasn't feeling me like that. So, waiting on a response now :-{. IDK how often he checks his page so.......Fingers crossed!!!
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reader, Lizziebadazz +, writes (20 April 2011):
Lizziebadazz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with you on the thing about the anonymous note but I have NO experience (or backbone for that matter)with talking to guys like him on more than a friend level. I guess I just feel all tubby and out of shape and then he has this nice toned body and the sexiest green eyes ever... LOL! I just can't bring myself to approach him again. I REALLY don't want to ruin our friendship. The note was an impulsive move and now IDK how to make things go back to normal so to speak
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): May I ask... what is the purpose of an anyonymous note? I never understood that. If someone leave a note without signing it, you would THINK that the writer doesn't want anyone to know. And yet, the writer usually wants the receiver to "figure it out" and make a move.
So what's the point? To create awkward tension? I understand there's the fear factor and you want to avoid it at all costs, because you don't know how he'll react. But these things usually don't work out the way you want.
I suggest you go up to him and tell him you wrote the note because you like him. I think you have to put yourself out there and follow up with it. Claim it. I think that would be a sexy move. And I think you'd want the same if you got an anonymous note.
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reader, Lizziebadazz +, writes (19 April 2011):
Lizziebadazz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't really think I did put it out there in a way to let him know exactly that it was me, but I don't know. maybe he assumes it was me cause I've had another co-worker tell me that it was obvious that I have feelings for him by the way I talk to him and act around him. But I think I'm going to take your advice and wait it out cause I'm still to chicken to step up to him with it. Thanks for the imput guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): well, you kinda put yourself and him in between a rock and a hard place. he probably doesn't know how to respond, since he doesn't know for sure who wrote it. and he probably doesn't want to ask around, for fear of looking stupid. "hey are you the girl that left the love note on my car?" haha. you understand what i'm saying? but since you didn't put your name on the note, and he is very unlikely to approach you on the matter, it's now up to you to approach him and admit that it was you. which can be extremely awkward, to say the least.my last thought is... do you think he assumes it was you? have you left enough hints and made it obvious enough, in your opinion, for him to know you're the one that put the note on his car? if this is the case, and you believe he knows, i would just wait to see if he says anything about it. if he doesn't say anything and just ignores it like it never happened, that's your answer. he's clearly not interested. if he does respond and pursues you, well then that's great!! best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Don't date people that work with you!
If it doesn't work out you will have to see each other for awhile till one of you leaves that job
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