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writes: Hi my best friend is the guy that I like and I'm not sure whether I need to just tell him and see how he reacts, or whether I should keep it a secret incase he has different feelings for me and wants to stay friends. I am afraid that if i tell him he will act strange around me...what do I do now????
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reader, SoNzZz +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Hey...iv been in the same position...I told the guy I liked himm...but after...he changed...he stopped talking to me how he used to...all im syaing is... see how he acts around you..if hes all flirty wiht you then ask him and tell him how you feel...otherwise dont risk it...frendhsip is much better then nothing. TREAUSRE IT!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): okay, take it from someone who has been there and done that: me. I asked one of my closests friends out on a date and she accepted. all went well for about 5 months until we started arguing (something we have never done). after 4 months of me hoping the arguements would stop (i know, too long), i finally broke up with her and she and i have never been friendly towards each other since.
But that was a while ago. now i am dating one of my close friends and we are promising each other that we will always be atleast friends afterwards.
Long story short, going out with ppl can bring out the best and the worst in ppl, and dating a close friend can be risky...but if you do decide to go on and ask him out, then go for itr feelings go to other ppl rather than bottling yourself up. Good Luck!!!
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (22 August 2006):
 I think that maybe you should leave it until you are certain he feels the same. Dont risk your friendship with him because if he doesn't feel the same this could scare him away. Good luck
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (22 August 2006):
 For me, this is the million dollar question!! :))
Part of me says tell him, be honest. The other (far more cautious part) says play it cool and see how things work out.
So here are my Pros and Cons:
Pros:
- He's already your best mate, so he obviously likes you on some level.
- He might really like you and be too shy to say.
- This could be the start of something beautiful!
Cons:
- He might like you just as a friend
- Then it could be awkward if he knows how you felt
- He might back off in the friendship because he's unsure how to act.
Overall I'd say play it cool for a while longer to get a feel for what's going on with him. Drop hints and see what happens. Or ask him about 'his perfect woman' and see if he describes you?? Then say 'ha ha that sounds just like me!' You may already know how he feels - but you didn't mention it in the question....
Good luck with whichever one you go for!!
Anon2907
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