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anonymous
writes:i like this boy a lot. and he's told me he does also. but one of my good friends use to go out with him, and i know she likes him. but i know he doesn't like her. but i don't like to be with her at school because when he's around i can't really go talk to him because i'd feel bad because my friend. and it's just like i want her to go away so i can have my time with him. but i don't want to make her feel bad. what should i do about this... it really sucks. thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): it really depends on how your friend would react to the situation and how much you care for her if it would hurt her. i think that you should ask her opinion before making any moves and if she doesnt approve you need to chose which is more important to you. your friend or a boy that may become more than just a friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): 1. Be truthful, it makes communication so much easier.
2. Be empathetic, people do things (like harbour crushes) for all sorts of reasons. Try and understand how your friend would feel about you having a relationship with this guy. Talk to her about it and while you are doing it focus on why you appreciate her friendship.
3. Don't rush. You have so much life to live, you can have a really awesome relationship with this guy without being boyfriend and girlfriend.
4. This is somewhat out of place, but communicate clearly. Both in speaking to people and when writing. Good punctuation, spelling and logical grammar make being understood so much easier and don't take up all that much effort.
Relax, life is not a soap opera! Have fun, be a good person and follow your intuition.
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