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writes:Hi, I need help... There is this boy at school that I really like, but I don't want to ask him out for the fear that he will say no. I have known him for some time now, but he was frequently off school; so we didn't speak that often. Now we are in our final year of school he is making an effort to attend everyday and I have really grown to like him. I know he is Bi aswell, which makes things more complicated... I don't no if he would want to go out with a girl at the moment as his last relationship was with a guy. I am afraid if I ask him he will turn me down. I have never asked a guy out before and it would really knock my confidence if he said no.What do you think I should do?
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reader, katherinest  +, writes (10 September 2009):
Don't stress out :) first piece of advice is make sure you dont end up blurting it out at a party or when you've been drinking, it could all come out wrong. You can usually tell if a guy likes you back so i'm guessing you know he likes being around you. I'd say ask him to do something with you but dont label it as a date and take it from there. Good luck
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Talk to him about it. Ask him how he would feel about having a girlfriend and ask him if he would consider going to the cinema with you or out somewhere (:Let me know how it goes.Good luck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I totally understand what you mean, and so does probably every other girl. There are a few options really and the easiest would be to just ask him out regardless. But don't show that you're nervous when you ask him as that will put him off.I'm not sure if the bi thing will matter; one of my ex's was a bi and he went out with a guy after we broke up (which i found quite insulting!) so I think he wouldn't mind going from a relationship with a girl to a boy.You could get your friends to talk to him - not to ask him out for you though because that can look a bit pathetic. Tell them that you fancy him and get them to find out if he likes anyone, what he thinks of you, etc.Another thing you could do is, if you think he does like you, then make sure he knows that you would only go out with someone if they asked you. You can do this by bringing up something about dating and at some point in the convo saying something like- 'i don't think girls should ever ask boys out- they should be the ones doing that'. This only works though if he is interested in you because he will pick up on it straight away and realise he has to do the asking.Some times though, you do just need to ask them out because they might have just started to like you, they could be nervous about it, or maybe never considered you like that before but when you mention it take it very seriously. The chances are you would stay friends after any way. So good luck and let me know how you get on!!
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