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writes: There is this one guy I was interested in dating, but I found out that he is gay. He and I have a lot in common, but I am worried about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 theres no ifs no buts no hows gay is gay!
even if you guys were friends you could be unintentionally led on because hel assume you know and accept his sexuality and wont think your looking 4 little signs he likes you.
be his friend if you can totally accept hes gay!
i know it can seem like all da good 1s are gay or taken!
but im sure theres a lovely straight guy out there 4 you!
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reader, theskycastle +, writes (11 September 2006):
 I know it's hard to accept the fact he's gay. To make you feel better, I'll tell you my story. I've been friends with a guy for 10 years (since childhood). We are always like gf and bf, even in our parents' eyes. We hang out all the time and talk on the phone for hrs each day. I honestly can say we are like gf and bf only minus the sexual attraction. I had always thought one day he'll asked me out, but he never did. One day he told me the truth. I know it'll be impossible for him to turn straight, but we stayed really close friends. Now I have a boyfriend, I feel that he often gets jealous of him. He feel my boyfriend stole me from him. This kind of emotionally in love happens in real life.
Things in common doesn't mean a thing. Me and my gay friend have a lot in common too, even more than my boyfriend. But I can say your true love will make you feel different. Love includes sexual attraction. But friends doesn't. You can still be best friend with him. Being best friend with a gay guy can be better than any girl friends you have. It's just different. My warning to you is: do not think he will be romantically interested in you one day. If you wait for him, you might lose your chance to meet your true love.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 You can no more make him into a heterosexual, than somebody could turn you into a lesbian - think about it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): As LostAndAlone has screamed out... [ahem] "WHAT ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT?!? HE'S GAY!!!" Like changing gold into cheese.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): You should be worried - erm... you're not his type!!! You'll have to be thankful for having a good friend cos you're simply not his type!
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 well as far as i can see theres not much you could do, changing somebodys sexuality would be a hard task, maybe just stay friends with him, and maybe do something like go see a movie or go shopping (dont refer to it as a date tho, cos he might be like....im gay, then that will ruin chances of getting to know him better), and he might find out that he likes you, and change his sexuality as a result. good luck
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 What are you worried about. HE'S GAY!!! Move on to a heterosexual man. I was told there are some out there. Sorry, its a little harsh but it is confusing to see that. You can't change his sexuality because you like him. Good Luck.
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