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writes:Hey, i'll try to keep this short, so i met this girl the other week and got her number, the following week we met up in the afternoon and spent basically the rest of the day just hanging out, we got on great.So we end up at her place and just hang out, now we was constantly talking, she was also making contact with me most of the time, you know like stroking my arms, holding my hands, and we was just looking into each others eyes like most of the time. I probably should have kissed her but i didn't and i left her place about 10. Now here's where i made a mistake, i decided to go back after i left and tell her that i should of kissed her and hope that i hadn't offended her, she was ok with that and then i left again, i felt like a proper idiot and shouldn't of gone back.Ok so a few days later i met up with her again in the evening, she wasn't feeling great so we just went back to her place to chill out, we was getting along fine again but i decided to leave a bit earlier because she wasn't feeling that well like i said. The thing is just before i was about to leave i had another one of my stupid moments and said to her how i thought she was a really nice person and didn't want to mess up any potential friendship, and that it seemed like she wanted me to kiss her the other day we met and i asked her if i had missed my opportunity to kiss her.She said she wanted to get to know me first and i said i hope i hadn't freaked her out or anything and she said no it's fine, she's a real down to earth person but still, i feel like such a tit, i've met up with her twice and here's me being all serious, the thing is i really like her as a person and if we just end up being friends then i would be ok with that, but i can't help but feel i have f***ed that up as well. I feel like i have killed any attraction that was there basically.So yer basically what does everyone think? Thanks for your answers anyway.Dave.Additional Details:Also after meeting up with her the second time and saying what i said to her just before i left, i probably messed up my words a bit since i sometimes end up talking a bit too fast or whatever, but yer hopefully she understood me. Reply to this Question
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reader, A Name +, writes (15 August 2009):
A Name is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks for the answers everyone i appreciate it, we text briefly today and i just said i hope she enjoys London, she said have a good weekend and will see ya when i get back.
So at the moment have left it at that and will wait till she's back at the end of the week and then will see what happens, but yer like i said i appreciate the answers.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 Your good dude you worry to much you should have just kssed her. the way you did now you know she doesnt want you to kiss her yet. Next time Just Kees dah Gurl
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Dude,
Relax,
Decode what you want first, do you want a firend or a girlfriend?
Once you know that, tell her, and if its the friend option then give yourself time to be down about it.
Good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): I have dated a lot of guys and the ones who fall head over heels for me behave how you are now. I think you are a normal person in love? That same guy was so cool with the girl who really liked him and he says she did things that made him angry because she expected more, and I get what she wanted, but with lots of chit chat and re-evaluating behaviours, his, and words of sentiment. I think just don't loose focus of what's actually going on around you or she'll think your conversations are out of place and irrelevant when she just wants fun, like talking about videos.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (15 August 2009):
 hmmm... to me it sounds like shes unsure weather your wanting a relationship, shes given you signs but you used the term possible 'friendship' with her, you said you 'should' have kissed her but then still didnt.. ok heres my advice, get your ass over to hers and passionatly kiss her!! its that simple. the rest will follow, stop been a laid back gentlemen waiting for her to make the move and you take the bull by the horns. because you went about things as nicely as you did she may think all you want is friendship. good luck! JD :) x
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