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writes:Hey guys...I'm kind of torn at the moment between two girls.One is this crazy, amazing girl that I met, we became friends, like really good friends. Then she started ignoring me. And I became depressed because I had no Idea why.So I ended up talking to her best friend a lot. And now, I think I like her! On one hand, I don't want to get over the first girl, on the other hand, I hate how she ignores me, and love how her best friend is so nice to me.What's your take?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (10 October 2011):
This is what you should do:
1. Ask the first girl what has happened and why she is ignoring you. (I know that is difficult to do, but you kind of need to know.) Ask her if she wants to be with you. Ask her straight. See what happens.
2. If, as, afraid to say, is most likely that she doesn't want you, then ... find a totally different girl (not her friend).
Reason:
If you get No.1, you'll be glad, as that is what you really want.
If you don't get her, then don't have her friend, because you will always still be secretly liking/wanting No.1, and that isn't fair on No.2.
OR
if you really like No.2, and think you can just forget about No.1, who sounds to me bad bad bad anyhow because she has treated you like this ... then commit to No.2. But it must be total commitment.
I am not sure that you can do that, which is why I suggest finding a totally different girl. I know No.2 would be upset, but better than she becomes your girlfriend then after some time No.1 gets jealous because you were supposed to be her admirer and then you all go to a party and drink something and No. 2 walks in on you in a clinch with No.1 ... that would be even less fair on No.2.
So: I think No.2 is best, but I don't think you deserve her yet ... ; )
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Well, you can't have them both, and the first girl wasn't interested in a relationship.
It's pretty clear that you only have two options.
1. See how things pan out with the best friend.
or
2. Forget both of them and consider other girls.
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