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writes:iv been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half. wre both 18. were both rather serious about each other but latly iv began to relise im trying to control him. such as him going to be with friends or wanting to do something else rather than meet me and during this easter holidays iv basicly seen him all 2 weex. but i feel so lost when im nt with him. i want to be with him all the time bt i get the feeling that i really need to give him his space. he tells me it doesnt matter, he feels the same and doesnt reli want to be w.o me anyway but thats nt really the point is it?if its nt actually effecting either of us atm should i just carry on? or should i try to distance myself? if i distance myself hel think i dnt want to b with him or wot if i think were nt as close and it myt break our relationship?i think im quite paranoid about everything, hes too perfect and iv been in bad relationships before i dnt want to take chances and loose him. what should i do? am i worrying for nothing? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): And I do not know why I double-posted....Sorry. Anyway, nobody is perfect...(lol).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): Anon., at the first of a G-B friendship, both are infatuated and want to be together all the time. But, this can become a problem after a while, because both have other responsibilities. Some have home jobs, and some have outside jobs, and both have school to deal with. And yes, guys do have friends, and if he is involved in athletics, he also has that. And I will give you a clue about young friendships that do not last long. One or the other is too possessive and the other begins to feel trapped. The thought that, "If I am not with him all the time, he won't think about me", is nonsense and very childish. By all means, give him his "space". I am curious as to why you don't want your own at times, as well. You can never put the weight of being your "be all and end all" onto someone else. It is not fair to them, and not healthy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): Anon., at the first of a G-B friendship, both are infatuated and want to be together all the time. But, this can become a problem after a while, because both have other responsibilities. Some have home jobs, and some have outside jobs, and both have school to deal with. And yes, guys do have friends, and if he is involved in athletics, he also has that. And I will give you a clue about young friendships that do not last long. One or the other is too possessive and the other begins to feel trapped. The thought that, "If I am not with him all the time, he won't think about me", is nonsense and very childish. By all means, give him him "space". I am curious as to why you don't want your own at times, as well. You can never put the weight of being your "be all and end all" onto someone else. It is not fair to them, and not healthy for you.
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