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writes:i have been talking to this guy (lets call him boy 1)for about a year now and we were almost going out. we never stop talking until were asleep or at school.we kind of died down and went from being 'on it' to very close friends. i havent stopped liking him where as hes had another relationship with this girl that he was on/off with for ages. they broke up and ive given him time to get over her and i flirt but he never really flirts back. when were in person we may aswell be a couple, were inseparable. i dont think he likes me though so i guess i should move on, but i cant! theres been 2 other guys who have liked me but ive let them down for boy 1, i always feel awful because i know how they feel but i wont go out with them because thats not fair on them either. i see boy 2 quite a lot but he is like a brother to me so i keep it really friendly, my friends never help though because they always try and set us up which doesnt help at all. and my friends arent fimiliar with boy 3 but hes oneof my brothers friends so i had to let him down because i didnt like him and for my brother so it wasnt awkward.i think i have a chance with boy 1 and i dont want to hurt boy 2, 3 or maybe even a future 4 (sounds snobby i know) but its only a chance so should i just move on already?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2013): Boy 1 appears to have put you in the "friend-zone." He likes you, but maybe not the same way you like him. I think you should appreciate the friendship you both have, and see if it may take a turn at some point. Let me recommend that you don't get your hopes up. I think something would have blossomed by now; and I don't think he is unaware of your interest for something more. He hasn't lead you on, so you should take that for what it's worth. That way, you get to enjoy his company as you have up to this point.Moving on doesn't mean you should burn bridges with "friends" who don't reciprocate romantic interest. That applies to romantic relationships that didn't work. In fact, those shouldn't end bitterly either. Who needs enemies?I hope boy 1 will be there for you when your heart gets broken, and he'll be your ally during adversity. He is, first and foremost, already a true friend. He is a major connection to your support system.Value friendship and love when it is real and in good-standing. People don't always care for us the way we want them to. That doesn't mean we leave them behind because we couldn't change their feelings to suit us. We value the friendship for what it is and as it is.Crushes sometimes never change; but the mind has a way of accepting reality, if you let it.
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