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writes:So I'm Muslim and like a Muslim guy I met recently. Anyway, I friended him on FB and a non Muslim woman he knows has been making a flirty comment like "Rawrrrr!" or "The things I'd do to you yummy" on half his profile photos. He doesn't flirt back (he's a fairly strict Muslim AFAIK or was at least raised that way, he works for a local mosque) as far as I see but I do wonder if they flirt IRL as well (Muslims don't tend to date non Muslims but he can be really friendly at times).Anyway, should I tell him I like him? TBH I'm a bit intimidated by her. Some of the comments she has made are just :eek: (and I make offensive jokes all the time even as a muslim girl...) and she's quite attractive (though I am too). Though I'm early 20s and she is 33, and he's younger than her (in his 20s too)He is really friendly to me but I'm not sure if he likes me in that way or not, or if he has been flirting with her to make her act like that even though she is not Muslim. TBF, he is quite attractive though obviously he does not do stuff like post topless selfie pics on FB.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2015): If you guys are so strict Muslims are you even allowed to date? All I can say, may be its news for you, but Muslim men strike me as big flirters and very aggressive in their advances for women. In every country I went with Muslim religion, men usually paid me sooo much attention and offers with sex all ages, that I I could never compair it to other non Muslim men, not even close. My husband though not Muslim lived in the area with mostly Muslims and when I went to visit my in laws, I couldn't walk streets without him, as guys were starring and even touching me.
You portray him as such a shy little boy and this older woman is after him. I am sure she does it because he lets her and encourages her. And I doubt very much that he will say no to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2015): You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Apologies if I sound like your parents, but I am old enough to be your mum. Don't waste your time on superficial men. He doesn't sound as if he is very strong in his faith if he is allowing these sorts of flirty comments.I am a revert. I was going to marry a Muslim guy, we were engaged. Although he never expected me to become a Muslim, as I was Catholic, I did it because I wanted to. In the end, I ended the engagement because I realised he was not following his religion, he was taking drugs, drinking heavily, making sordid comments about other women, online and offline and a lot more concerning stuff. That stuff was there before I became a Muslim but it became extremely worrying once I looked at it all from another perspective. This man is almost 50 and let me tell you, he has always been the same, way back when I first met him in his twenties.Sister, what do you want? we live in a somehow bizarre day and age where we prefer to make contact through our screens instead of in real life. Are you looking for marriage? Are you looking for something outside of marriage? If you're looking for marriage, do your parents know this person? Could he be approached in the right way about possible marriage? And with you?If you plan on something casual, be very careful. It is possible that he is a good man in front of others but in private is something else entirely. He could be sleeping around. Be very careful.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (25 January 2015):
 Be careful, because she got the idea that it was okay to interact with him like that from somewhere! Normally, people don't go from zero to lewd virtual acts on Facebook for no reason.
Honestly, I'd actually be put off by a guy who lets someone catcall him on Facebook to that degree. If someone asked me out and they had a friend constantly near-sexually-harass them on everything, I'd probably turn down the offer and tell him why -- that the woman on his friends' list makes me feel like I need a shower after all of her gross posts.
The red flag is that he may not respond, but he doesn't do anything to stop the attention. It would make me wonder if his ego gets off on it, in which case then it would be too much drama and baggage for me to start dating him when he continues to let that happen, only to find out that she's some sort of psycho who, upon noticing he was in a relationship with me, would threaten to axe murder me in my sleep or something. Or worse, that he's in a secret relationship with her the whole time and would hide any public relationship with me because he likes his drama and multiple women.
Those are my thoughts. His facebook ego stroking and her uncomfortable comments would turn me off from him.
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