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writes: Hi AllI am new to this site and feel I need some advice. I really like this girl at my school we are good friends and get on really well. I have liked her for a while now and want to ask her out but lets say i aint the best around girls, I am kinda shy. The other night we had our prom it was great fun I wanted to ask her for a dance but she was dancing with someone else which kinda crusched me, any how later on i asked her if she wanted to get her photo takni with me by this pro phtograher that was there all the couples were doin it and she said yes!! I felt great after this and feel like I should ask her out but i dont want to be rejected and when she danced with that other guy it kinda put me of i think there just friends hopefully!So how can i get closer to her so i can ask her out i dont want to be pushey or make it seem out the blue!!Thanks
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reader, Lisho +, writes (7 July 2006):
 It seems like you two are really good mates.
and relationships are based on friendship so i reckon you have really good chance.
Try and be subtle at first about how you feel that way if she doesn't feel the same then you won't be to embarrased . don't change how you are with her because she obviously likes you how you are. Try and pay her compliments and hopefully you will be able to tell by her reaction whether shes interested.
just make her laugh and feel special and im sure everything will fall into place. Be patiant and just enjoy getting to know her better and spending time with her.
If things don't workout with this girl don't lose hope theres someone for everyone
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reader, Mr Z +, writes (6 July 2006):
Mr Z is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Bev Conolly for your advice.
I suppose your right I mean she was willing to have her photo takin with me and actually a while ago about 2 years lol, we went on a trip to Paris with school and long story short we held hands when heading up the eiffel tower, but i am afraid that the little spark died and now she just thinks of me as a friend and nothing more and she did the photo out of frendship. In actuall fact the photographer said "are you boy friend and girlfriend?" i said "no just friends" he said "good friends?" and she replied "yes VERY good friends". So i dunno if she just wants to stay buds or if she wants more.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 July 2006):
 I think you have a good chance of her going out with you, based on the fact that she was willing to have her photo taken with you at the prom. When you think about it, that picture is going to be her one lasting reminder of the night, and you're the one in it (not the fellow she was dancing with), so the signs are good that she likes you!
I'm a big believer on building on whatever basis you already have with a person, so you could use your time at the prom as a start for asking her out. That way it doesn't seem so "out of the blue" (although speaking as a girl, dates that come out of the blue are just fine, too).
Say something to the effect that you had a great time at the prom and wished that you'd asked her to dance with you on the night (it's true, right?), but since you didn't get the chance then, would she like to go out with you sometime?
She's bound to say Yes if you're sincere in your invitation, as long as she's not already with someone, so go on... Fortune favours the brave.
If you don't ask her out, then you can be sure that some other guy will, so ask yourself which is worse: the chance that she might say 'no thanks', or the chance that you'll have passed up dating a girl you like?
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