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writes: hey guys how are you I have discovered that my husband has committed adultery with 4 other women I want a divorce and I do not know how to go about it iam in a very difficult situation as I have no where to go0
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reader, camille  +, writes (6 July 2006):
 Do you have access to a citizens advice bureau? They may be able to help you with housing and legal issues. You may be entitled to Legal Aid so ask about that. In the meantime if there are no children involved, do you have any friend, colleague, family member who can put you up whilst you find somewhere to live. It will be tough but there are plenty of agencies who can help you with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Make a decision here, hun and stick to it. If you are determined on leaving him, make a plan for that. If you are determined to make another go at this marriage, then make a plan for that. What you do will be based on how you want to proceed. Many wives can forgive a one time cheat but many would never tolerate 4 times. It means he's a chronic liar and a cheat an he may never change. Start planning and educating yourself. This will empower you and help you feel more in control of your life and where it's headed. Right now your thoughts and emotions are all mixed up and in a jumble. You need clarity..you need clear, concise options. Firstly, I recommend you go to your family doctor and have him refer a good family counselor to help you with your troubles. A good counselor will give you tips and insights into career strategies if you are not working, also. If you leave, you will need to support yourself so careful planning and preparation is crucial. Next, ask yourself, do you want to end this marriage? If so, then talk to a lawyer and get some legal advice If you can't afford a lawyer there could be a legal aid office, where you live where you can get free legal services. Even having a one-time consultation can acquire you the some good, solid information on what your rights and responsibilities are and also they will point out the same of your husband. Educating yourself with legalities of a separation/divorce will help you make clearer decisions. Just because you visit a lawyer, doesn't mean you have to start divorce proceedings but you need to get informed.
If you are determined to save this marriage, then you and your husband need help. Find a good marriage counselor and go from there. But the most important thing you can do is to 'get proactive and do something. You can't just mope around and hope things will change. Doing that will make your situation even worse than it is. I wish you well, my dear and take care, be strong and get busy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Why should you go? Chuck him out! Are there children involved? If you have no money of your own, you are entitled to free legal couselling. Have you no friends or family for support?
But before you go drastic, talk to him. Why has he gone with other women? Is he aggresive?
I can't really advise you properly without further details, so sorry my love. I wish you well.
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