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writes:I am an 18 Year old dude, I like this girl who is 14.***Before I go any further I know that it is LEGAL for me to date a girl of any age and if I engage in Sexual Activities with a minor I can go to Jail for statutory rape.***Are age gap is about 3 1/2 years. I like this girl a lot. But I feel her parents may not allow there 14 year old daughter to date an 18 guy. My mother doesn't even like the fact that I like her(My parents age gap is 3 1/2 years, same as mine as hers, but I am an adult, so her say is out the window). I mean I feel that she is the perfect girl for me, she is just wonderful.My main problem, is that I feel(speculation of the future) that her Parents may feel like sex would be in the equation of this relationship, but it wouldn't be, no matter how much I could stress this topic I still feel that I would be doubted. I respect parents for protecting and keeping there children safe, but what can I do to gain trust of parents.CLIFFS*I am 18*She is 14*3 1/2 age gap*No Sex until I am Married*I don't Drink, Smoke, or use any illegal substances*Parents have lack of trust, I have no clue how to gain trust from parents to help start this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (7 November 2008):
 Yes, it is ILLEAGAL. I cant say that I agree with you dating a 14 year old girl so here is my piece. The 3.5 year age gap is huge at that age. There is a lot of developent going on during the teen years and you dating a girl that has just begun developing is not the same as someone who is 20 dating someone who is 23. As you get older and fully muture, this age gap becomes small and no differences will exist. BUT that is NOT the case at 14 and 18!!! I would suggest that you dont become involved with this girl unless it is strictly friends. If you still care about her that way when she is 18 and you are 21, then I would re-visit the idea of dating her. Otherwise, this could become a complete mess wither with the law or the relationship itself probably wont work!
Take Care!
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (7 November 2008):
 yes of course you intentions are purely honorable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Leave her alone, wait till she's older. You can't really blame her parents, they properly want her to date boys her own age or wait till she's older. I'm 19 and got a 13 year old sister, don't see the attraction at all in 13/14year olds. Cause I tell you, watching my sister and her friends, they may act older and look older on the outside but inside their still little kids! and annoying too!
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