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writes:I just started college and am living on campus. I am an athlete and also play on one of my college's teams.I don't know why I did this, but I told some of my new teammates that I had a twin brother back home in a coma. I also said that my parents think he is gay, but I don't. I also invented other stuff about him like a real person would have. The only thing I forgot to mention was his name.Well word about him spread throughout the team and the coaches. So everyone was really nice to me and the coaches even took it a little easy on me at times because of my imaginary sick brother.I never thought that my friend from my home town would meet up with my teammates, but guess what? It happened. Now they all know I lied about my brother and I look like an ass. The coaches know too and I don't know what they are going to do. And there's other stuff too. Everybody thinks I am a weirdo now.I'm not really sure why I lie all the time. I just make shit up and then keep the lie going. I invent family members, give them personality traits, etc.. What is the matter with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): This is a lesson to slap you in the face and tell you to stop lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): It sounds to me like you crave positive attention. I'm guessing, but are your parents divorced? Are they overbearing people and you do nothing right in their eyes?
You fit the profile. By telling those kinds of lies to your friends it makes you a little different and special. And you crave sympathy, that you don't get at home. Hence the sick brother.
I agree with Q. In no time life will give you things you don't want to share.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (9 October 2009):
 Wow. Prehaps you have been living in someone's shadow. A sister, friend, family member, ect. Someone who was so beloved and recieved attenion that you became jealous of and craved.
Prehaps you watched someone go though a tough time and at first you felt sorry for her, and then you watched everyone else feel sorry for her, and give her blessings and hugs.
Whatever the reason, people lie for personal gain. It's an extrememly selfish act. You manipulate all your friends because you enjoy the way they treat you afterward. Having a story gives you credibility and social gain. It makes people look up to you for having a rough homelife, love life, etc. They then respect you and are intreagued by you. you enjoy that feeling reguardless of how you're hurting others. Maybe the consuquence of this particular lie is enough to make you think before you tell these stories next time. Pathological lieing is not a diagnosis, it's a discription and a decision. You control your words, so start being wise with them before it ends up being you-against-the-world.
~Sy.
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