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*xluvbluexx
writes:Okay so here's the thing I was stupid and lied about my identity on facebook..while I did that I met this guy, I didn't tell him the truth and I fell for him..he said he loved me he loved my personality and all... Well 2 years later I told him the truth..I know I shouldn't have waited that long! Well now he doesn't talk to me he pretty much Hates me. He's 18 and I'm 15. I really miss him. I'm heartbroken But he said we should go our own ways.. I told him I missed him And he said he felt like he didn't even know me. I kind of understand that. I just thought after I told him the truth he would realize that deep down it was always me and he fell for ME, sadly he doesn't realize that and hates me. I love him so much though! should I try and fix things if so how or should I just not even bother and let him go or should I just let time pass by and let him decide if he wants to talk to me? Please help me..
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (9 November 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks tennisstar88 .
And Tisha my parents don't know. I've talked to my best friend about it... Maybe I should talk to my mom though. Also, He kept adding me (the real me) on facebook and then just kept deleting me off his friends idk why.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I think it's probably the best idea to ignore it. It sounds like he was just saying 'goodbye'. It sounds like the entire 'relationship' was on Facebook, and so was rather tenuous to begin with.
Presumably, he now knows who you are and can get in touch with you later on when you have had some time to move on.
May I ask if you have talked to your parents about this? My mom was pretty good at listening and understanding. Maybe because she'd been my age once and remembered what it felt like when I was going through my traumas.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 ignore it, there's nothing to respond back to. He said bye, that's his form of closure. Leave it as it is.
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (9 November 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell should i just ignore his text?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 November 2010):
Because he probably still can't grasp you lied for that long..We had a question on her this lesbian was lied to by a man posing as a woman on the net. Then he finally came clean and she was convinced that the woman when she was just a figment of imagination was real.
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (8 November 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell He randomly sends me a text..,even after he said we should go our own way.. . He's very short and quickly says bye.. I don't get why he even texts in the first place...
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reader, kalykush +, writes (3 November 2010):
 what exactly did you lie about? you had a fake picture up or what? personally i'd say let some time go by and then try to talk to him again if that fails let him go. yes he lost all his trust in you. and to be honest he's probably pissed off that he fell for a girl that just lied to him even though you are saying it was still YOU he only thinks that everything was a lie. which yes it was based on a lie but from my own experience time can heal all wounds.
i lied to my BF about who i lived with. 3 months later the truth came out. he still brings it up now about how it was all based on a lie but we've been together over a year and have a baby on the way. -side bar- he lied too so they cancelled each other out in our minds LOL...
good luck
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reader, xxluvbluexx +, writes (3 November 2010):
xxluvbluexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you..you guys are right.
And I know ive learned my lesson! I started the whole thing when I was like 11 I was just a dumb little girl. I will never pretend to be someone I'm not.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 November 2010):
Two years is a very long time to lie about something that's really very important. His shock is understandable. Apart from anything else, you're under-age. And, it wasn't really you who he fell for. It was your alias, and that's how he will always see it.
I don't see any way that you can convince him to give you a second chance. He has made it clear that he is now moving on, and I think you should listen to that and respect his wish. You need to move on.
Please always be yourself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2010):
Sad to say, you were living a big lie for 2 years..of course he doesn't know the real you because you've lied to him from the get go. He has no trust in you, bad way to try to start a relationship. Not to mention, you're underage so legally he can't be with you..There's no trying to salvage something with him. Let it go. He has no interest in you any longer, do as he said and go your separate way.
Do remember honesty is the best policy.
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