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writes:Ok so I kinda have a problem. So I have been talking to this guy i met on the Internet for a while now and we want to meet up. He lives I a different state then I do but we are having our parents talk about maybe having me go to him, or him come to me. But I met him on a website and told him that I am 15 turning 16, but I am really 14 turning 15. He is 16 turning 17. I am afraid that my mom is going to give up my age to his parents and that he will find out that I'm only 14. Do you think that I should just tell my mom to say I'm 15 and that I lied to him? I really like him and I feel bad that I lied but I'm not sure if I could tell him the truth. Please help me and tell me what you think I should do. Thank you for your answers. :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Come on you know what to do. Tell him. Stop stalling.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Tell him. It's only one year difference, no big deal. A little white lie, he'll forgive you.
And then, when you'll hit 40 you'll tell everybody that you are only 39, this will even it out:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Tell him your true age. It is not something that is so big that it's a deal breaker. He thinks you're 15 now well it will make no real difference that you will be 15 soon and he should be okay with the fact you lied because you only did it because you like him.
The truth will set you free is not just a saying OP, you don't feel good now that you lied do you? It makes you anxious and nervous, if your mom decides to lie to him too then you'll just always be anxious and nervous around him, that's no fun at all.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (8 February 2012):
 I'm so glad to see that parents are involved.
Ask yourself, what's more important? Being truthful to your parents, or to the person you've never met?
I have a feeling you know the correct answer already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): If he really wants to meet you and likes you then he would have no trouble with your age!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): "Do you think that I should just tell my mom to say I'm 15 and that I lied to him?"
Nope, you should tell your mom you lied to him and you are going to take it upon yourself to tell him and his parents that you are really 14 (and only telling them you're 14 and
just 14, no qualifying that you're turning 15, every 14-year-old is turning 15 eventually, I don't go around telling people I'm 53 turning 54).
Best way to deal with a mistake is own up to it as soon as you realize you've done wrong, don't wait to get caught (and you WILL get caught).
Props to you for keeping your parents in the loop; you're a very sensible young woman who made a misguided mistake, learn from it so you don't repeat it. You may not like the consequences this time, but you'll know you did the right thing by everyone involved.
Never pretend to be anything else other than who you are, nobody's that good a liar, you'll always get caught.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): I doubt your Mum would lie to his parents about your age anyway. I think you should tell this boy your true age and take it from there. Good Luck
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