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writes:Hi Aunts.I am 15 and hang around with a large group of girls. I wear nice clothes and make myself up to look older I suppose.I went to a party recently and met this really nice guy. He said he was 26, I really liked him so I said I was 17. He took my number and we've been texting like crazy since.We have been on 4 dates now, each one getting a bit heavier if you know what I mean. The last one I skipped afternoon and went to his place. We had some wine and stuff and we ended up having sex.I was a virgin but I had done other stuff with different ppl. Am not bothered about losing it.The problem is I really like him but I dont know what do about the age thing?The other major problem is when I went into his spare room he had this yellow jacket which I picked up - it said police on the back. I asked him why he had it and he laughed and said coz he was a policeofficer!! He hadnt told me that coz he said it puts some ppl off.Would he lose his job if my parents or school finds out?We are meeting on mon and I dont know what to do.xx
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reader, r_a_w_r1645  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 yes he could lose his job. thats really sick. you said you were 17 and had sex. you have to be 18 for him not to get in trouble. basically its classified as rape. im sorry but you should tell him your age and stay away from him.
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reader, natasia +, writes (6 November 2010):
 And, Sageoldguy - how can it be rape when he thought she was 17?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Oh the policeman has a thing for younger girls..even at your false age of 17 you're still too young for him.
I would not see him on Monday, break it off with him you're already knee deep in this. However, if you can't bring yourself to break it off then you're going to have to come clean about your age so he can properly break it off. He just had sex with a minor, legal age of consent is 16 in Britain. So your cop committed a crime. There's no possible way he can have a relationship with you due to the law. Leave him alone, and don't lie about your age to make yourself seem grown up..that's a sign of immaturity.
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reader, natasia +, writes (6 November 2010):
You have to tell him. I don't know how far away your sixteenth birthday is, but you must tell him, and apologize. He trusted you when you said how old you were, so in my mind, he hasn't done anything wrong. However, he is actually doing something wrong, without realising it.
You must tell him, and then presumably he will stop sleeping with you. And you must tell NOBODY about this, because you mustn't compromise his position, job and life because you lied to him. It is your fault, you know, as you lied - but he would be the one to be punished if someone found out.
Tell him you can still see him, but not have sex (I'm sure anyhow he will say this), and then, if you still like him, see him after your 16th birthday. However, I sort of feel you are a bit too young for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Yeah, i agree with all these people here. Im only 15 as well and even i know that that was all stupid on your part. Knowing his age ahead of time should of made you back off, and now knowing that hes a copper just makes things worse. Tell him everything and back off because you say you like this guy and if you really do, do you want him losing his job and getting charged for rape? This is the time where you have to grow up and take responsibility for your mistakes
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I agree with the previous poster. This is rape on his part, and hes a police officer ? Although you did tell him that you are 17, which here is still rape as you are under 18 and he is over 21.You are messing with someones life here.I know, because my fiance is on a registered sex offender list because of unknown knowledge .. she lied. Now he finds it difficult to find a job as he has to disclose and renting anywhere is a nightmare. People look at him like hes a monster, yet anyone who knows him, knows he isnt.But you could potentialy ruin this mans entire future with what you are doing, and what you have done. He is supposed to uphold the law, not break it.You are definetly on the right path to becoming one of "those" girls. Good luck with your life chickie
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reader, lacrymosa_652 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 @ "sageoldguy" - this is NOT a case of rape. He did not force her into having sex, it was consensual, and it's most likely he was unaware that he was having sex with a minor.I don't know if you should actually tell him your age because he may be horrified at the thought he's slept with a 15 year old. But either way, break things off with him, and never lie about your age again, it'll only get yourself and others into trouble.By all means, wear nice clothes and make-up if you wish, but don't go out of your way to make yourself look older. You'll grow older eventually, but you're only young once - make the most of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Yes you should leave him alone. If people find out he could be arrested for sleeping with a minor and lose his job. The next time somebody asks you your age tell them the truth because you've acted like a silly little girl and because of that this poor guy could get into a lot of trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I would definatley tell him. He would probabaly lose him job if anyone found out he was having sex with someone underage. It's really selfish if you don't tell him. I know it'll be really scary to tell him, but you have to do it for his sake.
I think you know you have to tell him.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I dont know why but I find this hilarious. Maybe its just cause of pure stupidity on his part and being deceitful on yours. Grow up. Theres no time for any game in this life. Valubale valuable lesson learned here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Hey tell him and walk away. This is his career you are messing about with. If there is any hope for your relationship it will happen when its legal. He will not be impressed that you lied, he deals with liars all day every day. He needs to be able to trust you.
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