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writes:Alright, I will try to spare you as many of the stupid details as possible. I had been dating this girl for about 10 months and we just recently broke up. She got kicked out of her parents house, and I let her move in with me, even though I knew it was a terrible idea. Now she is still here... I am too nice or too stupid to kick her out. I mean I still love her (she said she still loves me too), but she is being a really big bitch. When we initially broke up we had a big fight and she went over this other guys house. I can kind of understand this because she had nowhere else to go. She came back the next day we talked, had sex, etc., and she kept saying how we are going to have to distance ourselves after tonight...I don't know it was wierd. The main reason we broke up is that my dad died a little over a year ago, and she was mad that I wouldn't talk to her about it. I have been really depressed abot that, and then her breaking up with me really didn't help much. I mean there is more to it than that but it's a long story. I was always a nice guy and I never did anything wrong to her, so now she hangs out with her cousin and her cousins boyfriend. Who has beat the cousin and locked her out. I feel torn apart... How could she dump me and go hang out with that a-hole. We have had our problems, like every other couple, and I think the only reason we stayed together so long was because we had great sex. Mostly because of me... I am not good at many things, but if I had to make a list that would be on the top of it.Basically my question is that I do not know what to do. Should I kick her out? She is really unappreciative of me letting her stay at my house. Should I try to work it out? I do not know if I even want to... Thanks
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reader, Kaiden4321 +, writes (17 February 2009):
Kaiden4321 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice... I really don't know what to do, but she is movingout at the end of the week. I still love her, I tried to talk to her, and I sent some flowers to her work. I dunno trying to work it out, but she is acting ridiculous so she has got to go. Lol I don't know who made the title for this, but it wasn't me. I dn't think they really understood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): I think you should kick her out..I mean you broke up with her right? just move on with ur own life, not stressing about living with her. Just tell her that you thinkk she should move out and give her some time like a week so she could have some time to get ready..
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reader, DreamQueen401 +, writes (14 February 2009):
 Kicking her out won't be a very good ideal, I think you should talk to her about it!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 February 2009):
I think you should talk about rent with her.
After all, your bills are hardly going down with an extra person in the place.
Make sure she pays the going rate and a bit more for a room in your area, and show her that she could have slightly lower rent if she moved somewhere else.
I don't think kicking her out is the answer, it's a bit over dramatic and who knows where she could end up.
But make it clear that you will help her find a job / place to go, but until then you need to be paid rent.
Good Luck!! xx
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