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writes:Hello, I guess my question is more towards women.Ladies, if you don't really know a guy but he has a crush on you and he's your biggest fan and he tries to create conversations with you, what's the fine line between coming off as too much? Reason I ask is because I like a girl and when I've created conversation I genuinely try to come off a supportive for her whenever I try to ask her about her goals in life and I want to be her biggest fan and supporter because I like her. But i know if I'm too overbearing I can kill the vibe and turn her off. I have zero clue if she's even into me at the slightest. But I want her to feel like a queen and for her to know I would love to treat her right but I know she doesn't have to give me a chance because it's her rightful choice. I have yet to hang out with her but we are friends, sorta, but ever since I shot my shot to let her know I was interested, our convos cooled off.Do I let it go and move on or is it that I can be too much. It's just hard to control ones emotion when I like this girl.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 March 2018):
 1. you haven't met yet?
2. the minute you told her you were interested in more than chats, she cooled off?
If so, then she isn't interested in you, in a romantic way.
Having a crush on someone doesn't mean they owe YOU to feel the same. There is a REASON it's called a crush. Because the one feeling it will feel crushed when not reciprocated. It sucks.
And may I suggest to STOP trying to "create conversation where you TRY to come off as supportive?" THAT is fake, OP - and some women can tell. It sound like some "pick up artist/con thing". Not genuine at all.
BE you. Let a woman get to know you. Get to know her. See what you have in common, be a good listener. Talk about hobbies, music, movies, life, travel... But BE authentic.
If you have someone who is your friend "sorta" and EITHER of you develop romantic feelings it is VERY hard for that friendship to work. Especially if the other person don't feel the same. Which might BE why she is pulling away. She doesn't WANT you to think she is stringing you along or that she is interested.
Yes, it CAN be hard to control your emotions when you like someone. However, you NEED to. And you NEED to respect that she may not feel the same. It happens.
Chin up, half the Worlds population is female.
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reader, Allumeuse  +, writes (2 March 2018):
I think she isn't into you that way. So now she can't see past the fact that you're into her and she doesn't feel that way so she's cooled off because she doesn't want to give you the wrong idea.
It sucks but you can't make her like you no matter how great you are. Respect her feelings and give her some space. If she wants to be friends after a while she'll contact you but if you want more you don't have to be friends.
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