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writes: Hello Agnony Helpers,So my problem is that on and off for a few months now I just keep feelings like my boyfriend (of almost 2 years) isn't that interested in me. I feel pretty stupid for even mentioning this but it's just been bothering me for awhile now.My boyfriends really wonderful. We go to college together (it's summer now) and we always ate lunch and dinner together and got to see each other all the time. The thing is whenever we ate together I just sort of felt like all we were doing was sitting there eating! Not talking at all. We'd talk for about five seconds and then stop. I feel like I was trying to do all the talking and it started bothering me then that he wasn't really talking much to me. I felt like for a long time all we were really doing together was eating and sleeping (I'd wait up for him after work and we'd sleep (as is eyes closed) together just so I could see him). He works alot. So now it's summertime and he's about 2 hours away from me. (We're used to the long distance relationship thing). Just there for a long time I feel like he never did anything romantic for me. I know this probably sounds selfish but I don't know. I'm just really sad and feel like I'm losing my boyfriend. I don't know if he's still really in love with me anymore. I feel like it's just cause we've been dating so long he's just used to me.He used to tell me that he got butterflies whenever we'd hold hands. It used to make me smile so much when he'd say that. I asked him recently if he still did and he said no... Then after I looked sad he said it was because he's not nervous around me anymore.I just feel like the chemistry is fading or something. I keep crying over this. I know something isn't right but I don't know how to fix it. I'm probably just being a brat about this but I got a bit sad tonight when I sent him an e-card saying how much I missed him (cheesey I know) then later I checked my e-mail and it told me I had 1 e-mail. I got all excited thinking he might have sent me one back and then I checked and it wasn't from him. I just got really disappointed. It's just been a lot of little things I guess. I just really really feel like he doesn't love me anymore. Its not about the e-card its just all these things building for months now and I'm heartbroken thinking he's over me. I don't know what to do or how to talk to him.Sorry this is so long...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. I talked to my boyfriend about it and hopefully eveythings good now :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): I agree with Laura.
In the early days, men are more romantic, and then once they get to know you better it settles down into something less exciting. They probably hardly ever think about romance.
Try reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
You might be able to get him to read books, but don't count on it!
He's probably quite happy and not realising how you feel, so you could try telling him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 He has taken you for granted and stopped the chasing and the wooing. He has settled down to the humdrum of life .
Life has become so routine and lacking the varieties and excitements.
You need to talk to him about women needing the romance and emotional support and validation of her thoughts and actions.
Maybe, you can go to the local bookstore and find some books for him to read .Books like , understanding your mate or how to romance your mate..etc.
Suggest to him about walking in the park, going to the movies or just sitting in the cafe.
Most men are unaware of the woman's perspective until trouble brews up. Then they will only realized that us woman have a different perceptions from them.
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