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26-29,
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writes:I'm a bisexual 15 year old and I'm unsure on what to do right now. I've liked this girl (who's 16) for over 3 years now. Last year in October I told her that I liked her. This girl happens to be straight and I told her that I was bisexual after around 2 years knowing her.As I thought... I got rejected. The way I got rejected is still slightly confusing. One of her points was that she had to get over her ex boyfriend and wasn't ready for a relationship (their relationship ruined their friendship).I don't know why it's so hard to get over her. I thought I had gotten over her over a month ago... but I think I was wrong. I can't get her out of my head. I know we have no chance, even now.I know she's straight and I should just give up, but I can't. I don't know what to do. Earlier in the year I asked if we could take some time not talking to each other (for a few weeks) and I thought it had helped. Even after, I made sure to keep my space.Should I just stop being her friend? I wouldn't say I'm in love with her, but what if I am? I don't know really. All I know is that I really like her. She's also a very close friend who I trust so much.Our time in Secondary School ends in the end of June (students in England go to Secondary School when they are 11 and leave when they are 16). In September we will most likely be attending the same Sixth Form (in England it is necessary for a 16 year old to go to wither Sixth Form or College until they are at least 18).We will be taking different subjects, so we will end up seeing a lot less of each other. Should I just wait until then? Try not to focus too much on moving on as time will pass and we will see a whole lot less of each other soon.Any advice you can give? I'd really appreciate it, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): Maybe you do love her but if you can't take it I would try your best to keep your distance for NOW... It's likely just a very strong crush, and when you start a new era in your life, you'll have new experiences, meet new people- not saying you'll just forget about her, but your feelings will likely pass over time... It's common to get fixated, a bit obsessive and think about someone all the time, even with a crush... Thinking it's love. I wouldn't cut her off completely, because your mind frame will change, you feel like you'll never meet anyone else, that's normal, but keep your options open, one day, if it passes, you can maybe be good friemnds again.Understand that if feelings have blossomed into love then it may be too painful to carry on the friendship. ATM distance yourself and just be friendly with her. Try not to to initiate contact very often to make things easier on yourself. She'll understand .Good luck and get out there! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): The good thing is you're young and you'll get over it soon. The "bad" news is you can't really be friends with someone you need to move on from, like an ex or a crush who doesn't like you back.
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