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anonymous
writes:i was dating a guy for 3 yrs,we met in junior college and dated for 3 yrs..during the 2nd yr of our relationship i moved outta town and he started getting super possessive.he didnt like me talking to other guys n stuff,hed get paranoid if he called an heard a guys voice in the background.during this time apart i lost feelings for him and broke up with him 2-3 times but he somehow would convince me to get back he'd drive down n be all sweet say sorry etc. fnally durin d 3rd yr of our relationship i went out for a party without tellin him n wen he called and found out he got mad yelled at me yelled obscenities over the phone accused me of cheating on him accused me of sleeping around durin d two yrs since d moved outta town and he finally dumped me was relieved that it was finally over.he called me a few days later telling me he was ready to forgive me but i din wanna go back..he tried beggin and askin me to go back but i didnta while later i met another guy we liked each other and started dating.its been a year that iv been with dis guy and v been super happy he gives me my space and trusts and loves me.i never thought of my ex even once during this year..never kept any contact or anythnglast month i had to rush back to where used to live cuz a friend passed away met my ex at the funeral.he was really sweet and all..we became frenz n started talkin againnow my ex has started tellin me stuff like he still loves me n that was the love of his life and that he cant ever get over me and that hes stll waitnghe sitll wants mei know it never worked out and that i was happy with my current boyfriend but Y do i suddenly keep thinking of my ex wondering if i made d wrong descision??i know my ex is wrong for me but why am i suddenly thinking of him again ??what should i do
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 You got over him and you moved on and buried all of the old feelings, when you finally did see him again, some of these old feelings came back to you, and then you decided that you would strike up a friendship with him, which was the first wrong move on your part, as he is in the past and that is where he belongs. He then starts filling your head with all of his smooth talking telling you that he loves you and that he is waiting for you and this is bringing up old feelings in you and making you confused. This is normal because a lot of old feelings are being brought up here. But you are happy now and you realise that your ex did not treat you right. You need to cut contact with him now before this goes to far, tell him you want to end the friendship as it has made you uncomfortable and move on with your life, in time you will realise you made the right decision.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 you are thinking of him again because he stroked your ego when you saw him.
give it a few weeks and it will pass.
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