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writes:should I confess to my teacher that I like himHi,I'm a 15 year old who has a crush on her English teacher from last yr. He's 12 years older than me. He has a girlfriend who also happens to be my teacher. I've been crushing on him for 2 years now and I don't know know how to get over him. He already knows that I like him. He once caught me staring him down in class. Ever since that day he started to stare me down in the hallways in front of other teachers. He's really nice, and I admire him so much.i just can't stop thinking about him. I even made a Facebook account just to look at his pictures when I miss him. I'm so desperate. I don't know what to do. I really don't know what he thinks of me and I'll never find out if I don't confess my feelings to him. Help!I'm in desperate need of some advice. Thank you for taking some of your time to answer my question. Once again thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2015): Thanks for the advice.
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reader, Abella +, writes (21 June 2015):
 Hi Nisreen,
Many of us have been where you are at the moment. I even took a photo of the teacher I liked and when I looked at the photo years later I failed to see what it was that so impressed me at the time when I was a teenager.
From memory teachers stare at students sometimes when the teacher is in deep thought.
Sometimes they are trying to understand a person better.
Other times they might be trying to look alert and aware but are actually thinking about what they are doing that evening.
If the teacher has noticed you then it is very likely that he has also confided in his girlfriend. Both he and your teacher (his girlfriend) may be well aware of your crush.
Does that make it uncomfortable for you? Knowing that your teacher may also know that you have a crush on her boyfriend? I do hope that she is very kind to you.
Is there a school counsellor who you could confidentially discuss your crush with - without revealing his name?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 June 2015):
 Nisreen,
Having a GF or BF doesn't make you go BLIND. You still notice other people. Even children and teens. DOESN'T MEAN they don't love their partner.
I have been married 19 years - I still notice a handsome guy, I'm SURE my husband still notices attractive females.
BUT there is a HUGE difference from NOTICING to actual LOVE interest.
And I know you don't FEEL like a KID, but LEGALLY, MATURITY and SEXUALLY you ARE.
IF this teacher reacted to it, in a sexual or emotional manner, he would be one skeevy and creepy son of a gun.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (21 June 2015):
 You will be served best in your life and spared lot of legal trouble if you just let this go, keep your crush mute and let the time crush down your crush. In fact, if you are so infatuated with this teacher and presumably you care for him then be sure you do not tell him that because you will open up a nasty legal can of worms which you will regret and which could get him in lot of trouble. Whatever you feel inside, all of the stare downs etc will eventually be construed as sexual advances and since he is in the position of authority it will be his skin that will get legally yanked. Frankly, legal authorities really don't give a care about your feelings or motivation but they just want to use you to stamp out such activity in their school district because hundreds of other parents will demand that. So for all practical purposes, your infatuation will initiate a witch hunt against a teacher not because of your infatuation but because parents demand that such activity is extracted from the midst of their children. After confessing, it will no longer be about you anymore. So do yourself a favor and do service to the teacher you like: drop this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2015): Men look at girls all the time. It means nothing. I might look slightly too long at a pretty girl. It doesn't mean I don't love my wife. I wouldn't under any circumstances have sex with a 15 yr old though. You are a child and real men aren't interested in having sex with children.
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reader, nisreen +, writes (21 June 2015):
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Ok I get it ur right but what about him staring me down in the hallways? What do u think of that? A guy would never stare another girl down if he TRULY loved his gf.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 June 2015):
Having a crush, a big time crush makes you think that it IS the MOST important event in the world, but it is NOT.
You can crush on Chris Evans or your teacher, but JUST because YOU feel that way, doesn't mean THEY return the sentiment, NOT that you need to confess your crush.
You are 15. I have a 15 year old daughter. And I'm sorry to tell you that a 27 year old teacher DOESN'T not feel the same way about you. My guess is his GF is HIS age, not a teenager - because SHE is someone he SHARES a lot in common with, age wise, maturity, life experiences etc. YOU have NONE of that... YET.
And... you are a minor. IF he did return the "feelings" and did something about it, HE could end up in jail, lose his job, never work as a teacher again, be a registered offender.
So really THINK about this.
ARE you so HELL bend on making YOURS and HIS like awkward and uncomfortable JUST so you can confess some "crush"?
We have ALL been there, having a crush on someone WAY unavailable.. And that is what your teacher is.. UNAVAILABLE.
How do you get over him? By letting him down from that fantasy pedestal you made for him and stuck him up on. HE is JUST a dude. Maybe he is hot, funny etc... but he is JUST an older dude. And he HAS a GF, someone he LOVES, who loves him back. REAL love. Not INFATUATION and FANTASY.
Don't do it. Don't confess. He might be flattered, but he might also be creeped out, thinking HE did something WRONG to make you think he liked you back. And he will pull back from BEING that awesome caring teacher he is now.
Think about it. Confessing to him is PURELY selfish. And it will NOT give you the outcome you are fantasizing.
Have some respect for him, his GF, his relationship AND his job.
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