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writes:Hello. Well, i'm young and I am very very horny..haha..I am a virgin so I like to masturbate alot..It is not secret..I don't care..anyhow. Pornagraphy is a sin..I am Christian and have been raised that its a sin..and it even says so in the bible..The thing is ..I watch pornagraphy sometimes to help my masturbation..I want the orgasm to feel really good..It seems like getting hard and wanting it makes it feel better..I don't know..I hope I don't have a problem...eek!!.. =^O
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reader, Bladejunkee +, writes (19 September 2008):
 No offense to anybody here, but I don't have a religion, I warship no-one, and if I did, I believe that whatever or whoever created me and all other humans, masturbation is a feeling, if it were meant to be a bad thing, wouldn't it hurt unless it was the real thing? You can say what you think, but masturbation is not a sin, you will mnot go anywhere like hell if you do it, because there are to many larger things for "God" to worry about, anyway, masturbation can releive up to 86% of stress, so don't worry. If you do, you will not need to worry, I've got friends that are religious that masturbate and don't worry, neither should you worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Dear Horny:I am a 45 year old Christian and have struggled with your question all my life. God created me, my body, and the feelings I have, and since God was the author of my life, how can desire and masturbation be a bad thing. Regarding a similar sexual / Christian paradigm - what about homosexuality? Since my own brother is gay, and I have been taught that God loves me and everybody, and that He created each one of us and knows our inner most being, than how can I judge someone because of their own genetic makeup and sexual orientation that was hardwired into their very being from the day they were conceived? But that's another question for later!Personally, I have been horny ever since I was a preteen. I would sneek peeks at my father's magazines and such in his office and at his business. I was introduced to underground comics by my brother. We even discovered my neighbor's secret stash when I would play over there as well. Fantasy of all kinds and themes has peppered my life and my sexual journey as well ... there's nothing wrong with fantasy either ... and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And through it all was masturbation.You and your body are just responding to the way God created you. Now that doesn't mean that any of us need to go out and have sexual intercourse as soon as we get the desire at 12, 13, 14 ... 15, or whatever. Sexual intercourse IS for when you are ready ... hopefully when you are older, and closer to a permanent marriage relationship. That IS what God intended. But if sexual relations are the road your life takes, remember that it should be meaningful! And most important of all ... always remember that no matter what we feel and think we need as males ... the girl is what's important! You've got to take care of the girl! You've got to show her that she, her feelings and experience are even more important than your own. You wouldn't believe how much more satisfying it is for you ... even if you don't orgasm yourself.Personally, I always wanted someone. I wanted sex ... my friends were having it ... why not me God? But I did have masturbation and still do. In fact my wife and I were able to keep ourselves in check up until about a week before our wedding. The desire, and how you process it and respond to it are entirely up to you and your belief systems. Although I am saddened by all of the teen pregnancy that is so prevalent in each generation ... even in these times, God is in control and knows what we will be doing and going through.I believe my father knew my desires and knew I shared his personal collection. Eventually I even had my own collection as well and my mother walked in on me one time. It wasn't her preference, but she understood and told me that it was OK, just don't try to hide things from her, because she would find out later anyway. As a "generic" description of childhood and youth, I had many of the same experiences as others. Exploring my own body. Playing show-me-yours with the neighbor girl I grew up with. Later, getting caught in bed with her and another neighbor girl while playing house, by my mother. Sharing stories and comparing cocks with another friend. Secretly wishing we could have sex with with another friend's sister ... but never making it a reality. Fantasizing about others from friends, family, strangers, to even imaginary people. It was all a normal part of growing up.My wife on the other hand, had a more "restricted" life. As a Pentecostal Christian, you just didn't do things like masturbation. It was wrong. So, she was a lot more inhibited when we got married. But we have shared and grown with each other. Her inhibitedness reigning me and my desires in a bit. My increased sexual desire nurturing a fuller sexual passion within her. Now it is to be noted that, a real sex life is not what is depicted in the media. They are great for stimulus and sometimes even humorous when alone or in a relationship, but real life is not like what is depicted in the soft-core / hard-core magazines and movies. You have your moments where passion seems non-stop day after day. Then you will have times where one or the other, or both of you have no desire. It is all OK ... as long as you both realize ... IT IS ALL OK!!So, back to your original question! Masturbation and sexual desire are not a sin. God created you and the way you feel. But when we say we "need sex" we aren't really saying that we need it, but that we "need sexual release!" And since God, not man or even Satan, created our penises and vaginas, as well as a means of relieving them through masturbation, without the need for actual sexual intercourse ... then how could it be bad, let alone a sin?As I stated before, I struggled with these same feelings growing up and throughout my life. I was relieved when I heard a message years ago as a teen, from whom I recall to be James Dobson, or some other noted figure back then, that eased my fears and anxiety as a teen. That "IT IS OK TO MASTURBATE!" That through continued prayer and discussion with God throughout my life, He has given me the peace to accept how he created me and my feelings. That He loves me even if I have made a choice that I later regretted. It was all part of His plan for crafting my life. I hope that this little expose' helps ease your anxiety and the anxiety of others. P.S. Don't be too quick to assume that your parents will be against you masturbating, or for a girl to need to purchase a vibrator, or whatever. We grow up thinking we can't talk to our parents about this stuff. And as parents we are nervous about how to talk to our kids about this stuff. Personally, I had hoped to do a better job of talking about these things with my children. I / we did OK, but it could have ideally gone a lot smoother and answered more of their questions. But you got to give it a chance. Sometimes, even a little time. But I personally believe parents can help their children through their growing sexual maturity. We as adults are not aliens ... we all have gone through puberty, our pre and post teen years. And even though the times change for each generation that follows, we all go through the same feelings and emotions growing up. And God knows our feelings and emotions as well, and is always eager for us to turn to Him for answers.So don't be so quick to say "you are alone" and "nobody knows how you feel" ... because, we all know how you feel. For it can take an entire "community" in our personal lives to help us through what is "common to all." May God bless you in your life's journey ahead of you.Sincerely,A Parent, Friend, and Fellow Human Being
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 im sorry but ive never understood how masturbation can be a sin. I suppose its a personal thing, but for me i just dont get that. i am a christian and my faith is important to me but this part i've never understood.
Humans are sexual. We all have sexual needs and desires. meeting them yourself is one option, getting another person to meet them is another option. i suppose technically fighting against nature and fighting the instincts and desires instilled upon you by god is another option but hardly seems right.
Masturbating seems to me a lot less sinful than going out and meeting random people using each others bodies as scratching posts to get rid of your horniness!
Its a fact that more women in the world own a vibrator than a washing machine. Dont feel guilty and dont be ashamed. You're not doing anything wrong. Masturbation is healthy and should be encouraged and celebrated.
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reader, Cag Lee "Apollo" Adarma +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Hey Elley,i wasn't going to comment on this subject but then i read some of the responses, casting unintelligible commentaries of The Bible. I'm not going to turn this into a matter of theology or what you should believe or not but the issue with this is not about 'sin' it's about what YOU believe to be right or wrong.Firstly, The Bible is archiac. However, we base our whole lives on archiac principles. Language, culture, science, fashion,and law are all based on what could be considered archiac ideologies. This does not stop their contribution to or having contemporary validity, so we cannot discount the Bible's teachings just because they are old.The 'Eye for an Eye' is an old testament logic of Judiac Law, refering to equivalent punitive consequences for an action, i.e kill a man= you be killed. This is placed in the bible as a contrast with the later Mosiac law of 'thou shalt not kill' and the New Testament teachings of Jesus Christ of 'judge not lest ye be judged'. This is a progression of understanding, civilisations path to an enlightment.NOW THATS EXPLAINED, TO THE TOPIC AT HAND (pardon the pun)Masturbation and Pornography.Everyone gets horny, Everybody has desires and i'm sure everybody has rubbed one out at one time or another but the issue i seem to be recognising is that you say you "don't care" but you do care or you wouldnt have posted the message. Thats like a dude standing on a ledge of a building saying "i like life, im not going to jump!!", then why are you on the ledge? why did you post the message? obviously you do care but the thing you have to ask yourself is do i care because my parents have told me i should or do i care because i personally think that i should practise more self control?It is my interpretation that you posted this message because you want your behaviour to be affirmed, justified by an outside community, force,Well,You've been given two logics here:1.chasten yourself,as liberation lies in the practice self control or,2.give in to your desires, as liberation lies in momentary gratificationits a personal choice as to which one you choose and its one that EVERYBODY has to fight with, me included.Anyways, I hope this helps you as much as writing it helped me...PEACE!The Cag.[RATE THE ANSWER] :p
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 God said that we are all sinners !
No man is righteous, for all have sinned.
If those holier than thou's were to judge you ,
they are wrong.
Pot calling the kettle black.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Have you even read the bible?
I will always astound me how people can follow a book with so many inconsitencies and contradictions. I mean if Harry Potter was written like that it would fail without doubt.
The patchwork quilt from different sources that is the bible was written thousands of years ago. Society is different now. Things are possible now that weren't before. The rules and things we live by are different.
Take a good long look at the bible and take in just how archaic and cruel some of it's rules are. 'An Eye for an Eye'? Okay if you are a barbarian who likes watching people murdered.
Sorry to be so harsh here. But if a Deity needs worship in order to get into afterlife paradise, than this deity was never worth worshipping.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Hi Hunny
You are not doing anything wrong its perfectly natural YOU TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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