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writes:Yeah... its another ''im in love with my teacher'' question. The truth is i do love him :( and i think he may be interested or maybe attracted to me... thats what i would like to know off of everyone, if he is attracted to me or whatever im cool with that im not goin to put his job at risk by tryin to get togeather with him and i wouldnt want to risk how good our teacher pupil relationship is. My feeling started devolping over 2 years ago for him and i cant go one day without seeing him... i always find lame excuses to talk to him or even pretending i cant do the work so he can help me... i know its stupid but no 1 will ever truely know how much he means to me :DOkay okay i think he maybe attracted to me as :-he is always having a joke with me... calling me a dumb blonde and i call him names bk and we both keep it goin til i usually give in... but hes like a 15yr old boy seriously... I get away with anything in his classes... me and him had a soggy ball fight (scrunched up pieces of paper etc etc) when we were alone and we just had such a laffi always catch him starin at me... like in class when hes teachin us... when i look up at him he is starin at me but suddenly looks away when i look at himafter school one day i went to the bus stop and when i was walkin up to it i saw him standin at it and he had his hand up (to block out the sun) and he was completely starin at me so i looked up and smiled... but it was one of those moments yknow? like it was beautiful we just stared at each other smilin for about 6-10 secs then i clicked and kindda woke up from my ''day dream'' and looked away- but he was still starin at me?Last week he got the class togeather and was givin us all a talk and was moanin a bit sayin how there lots of ppl in the class who just sit about and do not learn their instruments coz they chat too much then he said there are others however who are good at what they play beacuse they practise... then when he was openin up a room for me he opened the door for me and said here u go amy (in a posh voice) and then came in wiv me and said ''i was talkin about u in the class btw u work the hardest u r brillant at voice....'' and so on and so forth just the usual really as heis always sayin im his star pupil and that... also me and my mates were all singin all song... he came in angry and shouted at us all sayin he is goin kick us out of his class etc etc but thenhe took me aside and said that he wasnt talkin to me depsite i was part of the group and tht i was his star pupil and that he would never want me to leave his department... but y is he being different to me tho?if u r still readin this PS! sorry its sooooooo long but hey i got alot to say lollastly we were both talkin and he started makin fun of me again and i started doin it bk then he said ''i only annoy u the most out of everyone in the department... and i only annoy the people i really like''- wht did he mean by tht?also he is always starin at meinthe corridor and when i look at him he looks away quickly...he also said i can trust him with anythingand lastly me and a group of friends when and complained on him for lack of teachin... he went nutz with us all and completely ignored me and told another girl that he could never be the same with me again... so i went to see him and we talked and i stopped (as i am an emotions person) and said wait a min i feel like im gonna cry and thensuddenly he threw his arms around me and we hugged for a long time :D he ignores all the others students who complainted yet he talks to me and im his ''star pupil'' - how can that be?also he gets angry if teachers shout at me and tells me to promise him nt to repeat what he says... as he starts to then slag off the teacher who shouted at me and says no teacher should ever shout at me...also he has said plenty of times that im attractive and stunning and always sits rather close to and he knows me fear is when someone sneaks up on me it scares me and he constantly does it... we can talk for hours on end.also i lost my music folder andhe found it and gave it bk to me all graftied sayin mad amy and a joke about blondes! then when asked y he did this he said he wasnt gonna see me for a long time so he had to do sumthin (it was b4 summer btw)thanks for readin this if u havent fell alseepby now :) lolim confused so help please!!Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): i think all the time about how i would tell my teacher i love him, but to be honest, i haven't reached any conclusions! i really think this guy likes you, and if you like him back then just ignore the fact that hes your teacher, date him, but keep it a secret - if you love each other, no one and nothing else should get in your way.it would be the best thing in the world if the teacher i love would love me back; he means the world to me, i can hardly breathe when i'm around him - he came into a lesson of mine today just to drop some sheets off and i my heart practically stopped, and all i wanted to do was duck under the table. i was just sat there desperately looking anywhere but him becuase he is so devastatingly handsome to me in every way and just hearing his voice crushed me. what i feel is defininetely love, in fact, its probably more than that, because its more of a hoover that sucks away my self esteem, confidence, motivation, enthusiasm, happiness, and makes me incapable of thinknig of anything else other than him, and how we cant ever be together because i'm pretty sure he feels nothing for me, in that way. you're really lucky the way yours seems to like you especially - my teacher has me twice a week and i think he likes me as a pupil, but hes never shown that he really cares like yours has.
so i can't relly give you advice, except that you sholud tell him one way or another. maybe you won't even need to tell him - a little harmless flirting (subtly) never did anyone harm, and then maybe he'll be the one explaining his feelings. good look, please post back and tell us how it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Hey I think that he definetely likes you. Possibly even loves you well I think he does! It's really cute. He did say that you can trust him with anything. I'm not sure how you could tell him, i'm planning on telling the teacher I love at the end of year when i'm leaving, maybe at the formal. If you want to tell him now I guess maybe you could write a letter to him? Or just talk to him in the afternoon or something and just say I need to tell you something but i'm not sure how to tell you. If he says something like he tells u first which can happen sometimes then ur safe. But if you feel unsure by a look he gives you when u say u need to tell him something, or by the way he says something well I dunno don't tell him if it looks like his reaction might not be great. But I say something might happen soon! He sounds decent. Go with your instinct and goodluck I hope it goes well!
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (27 September 2007):
Amy2007x is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks people for all your replies!
but for those who said tell him... what do u suggest i say lol coz i cnt really do that... can i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): Hiya
Just to say I was in the same situation, n my teacher liked me. But before we could get together we got caught so the teacher kept it quiet but split us up. Now we cant even talk n I dont no what to do cos I love her so much!
We used to be exactly like u two then one day we kissed n planned to meet away from school but we gt caught kissin the same day. I cant stand it anymore so on friday i was doin my best to catch her eye n all she did was stare at me smile n laugh wen i was makin my friends laugh. Then she came to the table at dinner n said to my friend that "his essay was excellent but why did he use bulletpoints, do i teach u nothing?" n for a joke i said"yer basically miss" n she laughed n i stood up n walked out of the dinner hall n all that time she was staring at me n smilin so i hope she still likes me. I want her bk so much but i dno how now=[. Just to warn u w/e u do dnt get caught!!!
LW
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): he does like you. All the signs are there. He's being overly friendly, complimenting you, favoring you, etc.
I'm in the same situation, i fancy my teacher, and i think he fancies me back. Well, the twist is that he's married with a baby on the way.
We do have a close relationship. He favored me a lot in freshman year, and also in sophomore year. This year, it's a little bit different, because he wife moved in.
We always talk to each other after class, make jokes with each other, tease one another. lol. He smiles at me, and there have been so many times when I catch him staring at me.
He's flirted with me sometimes, well, kind of. It's so hard to tell. It's like he likes me, he doesn't, he does, he doesn't. It always goes back & forth. It seems he's unsure of his feelings for me.
He said he's always going to be there for me if i need to talk. He's even gotten this jealous expressions when he sees me talking to another guy or talking about another guy. It's kinda cute. Before he got married, and his wife moved in, I was "his girl" it was always "me and him"
I wish i could be "his girl" again.
Part of me thinks I was only "his girl" because he wife hadn't move to the city yet, and he was attracted to me because i was one of a few students to listen to him, and befriend him. We have similar interests, like in music, politics, movies, etc. I think when his wife came, she became "his girl" and i don't really like that.
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reader, On Cloud9 +, writes (22 September 2007):
I once fancied my teacher at high school and because I fancied him I looked into everything that he said/did and actually convinced myself that he liked me back, but looking back he was just being friendly. But your teacher makes is easy for you to think that because he is making you think that you are special aand being over friendly I think and sometimes not very professional, but I think its more to do with the fact that he is a bit niave.
I think, yeah you can have a crush on him but would urge you to keep your distance, because remember it's not really cool for an older man to have a crush on a younger girl anyway. But it sounds like he is just trying to be cool and wants to be looked at like the 'cool teacher'.
If anything else happens, let me know and we can look at it again
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (22 September 2007):
 wow.
sounds like my teacher romance, all the signs are there girl. he's head over heels in love with you! i'd love to talk to you about this, your actually the first person ive answered with a teacher romance issue - my hotmails [email address blocked] cos on there i can share my expeiriances with you.
''i only annoy u the most out of everyone in the department... and i only annoy the people i really like'' he meant he liked you the most, thats why he's treating you different - thats why your his star pupil. Me and my teacher are actually back together - my parents dont know! - theres a point dont tell your parents or anyone else, keep it strictly DL. hope everything goes well, i'll tell you how me and my teacher kicked it off, anyway, hope you get all the best and he loves you too. faith.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Sorry, but I fell asleep and only just woke up. Can you condense that into about three paragraphs please?
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reader, gingertiger001 +, writes (22 September 2007):
Everyone does at some point!
I had exactly the same thing and the teacher behaved in exactly the same way. I thought it could go somewhere and really hoped it would. We were always having little meetings in his office for no apparent reason and he would ask for my help on things and offered me lifts home etc. I really loved him for about 4 years and i really thought that he would at least feel a little but for me. But one day he told me he was leaving and i was devastated.
He obviously couldn't care for me or he wouldn't leave me, and i'm sure he knew i had strong feelings for him but he just left, never to be seen or heard of again and i was so hurt.Life was not the same and it took me a long time to get over him but i did and looking back i can see it was just a crush and he was there to help me through my school years.
I do beleive i understand how you feel, and beleive he could possibly like you too but it can't go any further. Rumours would ruin yours and his life and ultimately, you will end up getting hurt.
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reader, carchick +, writes (22 September 2007):
 i think u should tell him how u feel gd luck with it tho xx contact me at any time
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reader, Kay-lee. +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Well, truth to be told, I don't have experience with this matter, but I think that you should be aware of his age and also his job.
I know this is going to be difficult but I think you should talk to him about it, you did say that you could talk to him about anything.
I'm sorry if this reply wasn't helpful but I think that the best you could do is talk to him about it and see what he says.
And also, I do think he is attracted to you due to the signs you have told us about, but as I said before, make sure you're aware of his age.
Thanks!
Kay-Lee. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): If he is into you sexually then he is possibly into a lot of young girls. He possibly does this with other girls as well, you may not see it but you aren't in every one of his classes. He should have the maturity to step back from you & realize you're 16 & he is an adult in a position of trust & authority & he should not be giving you special treatment & staring at you, etc. From what you said he sounds immature for a teacher. He may like you sexually but who cares? As you said you aren't going to risk his job & etc. by sleeping with him even if you could. I was in thsi situation too when I was 17 a teacher really liked me, gave me valentines day candy, always stared at me, complimented me, told me I could talk to him about anything, pulled me aside a lot, etc. I never flirted back with him though. He was married with a young child at home. I was very sexy & looked older, I had large breasts I dressed in short skirts, etc. but my intention wasn't to have flings with the teachers at school. I wanted other class mates to notice me. So what I would suggest is to just step back from him & maybe get a bf your own age, this guy sounds about as mature as a boy your age anyways..
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