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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: My ex and I went through a seriously bad break-up about ten months ago after a year and three and a half month relationship. We then got back together about four months after that and then broke up again a month ago. It's now the new year and I just want to be completely detached from him emotionally and it's so hard when he not only lives so damn close to me (the next block over), but he wants to hang out a couple times a week and have sex when we do hang out and just be "my friend" while he does the same shit with other girls.Umm, problem: totally NOT into that. I do NOT want to be friends-with-benefits with a guy who treated me like shit for two years and talks about and flirts with other girls like he did when we were freakin together! I just want to be rid of him! I'm trying my damnest to do the no-contact thing and it just isn't working!Now he wants to go flying (he's a pilot) with me and the girl he cheated on me with and left me for (although they're not "official" yet). His thought-process? Getting his ex and his new girl together and see if we can get along enough to have a threesome with him, which apparently, she's into, but the issue is that I do not want to even look at that disgusting piece of ass he left me for. I'm quite reseasonably afraid I'll contract a disease or something.And I seriously feel physically ill when he even mentions the slut. Yes, she IS a slut because she's eighteen and hasn't been a virgin since she was fifteen and has had four partners already AND a venereal disease when she was seventeen but apparently "that's the past and now she's all better". F*cking gross!I know I'm worth twelve of that bitch and at least a hundred of the asshole I can't believe I let myself fall in love with! I just want to know how I can get over this bastard as quickly as possible before my heart starts hurting a lot more than it does already! Please, PLEASE help!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2009):
No contact only work if you don't have contact with him, so tell him to bugger off, that you are done with him.
Why oh why do you even want to exchange a hello with that disgusting pig? Even if you have had a past together doesn't mean you have to keep him in your life.
He has no respect for you at all. Only thing that works is truly ignore,ignore, ignore. Block his calls, block his e-mails, don't answer the door if he knocks. Stay away from places you know he likes to hang out that til he gets the point.
You can do it.
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