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writes:HeyOkay, where do i begin? I dont know what to do anymore, Its upsetting me and frustrating at the same time.Im in love with a teacher, I know that i cant be with him, I know the the age gap is too big a deal, I know tht he is the same as my father and i also know that he has children whom are older than me, the oldest being 19, Im 17.Im not asking for advice about wither this guys likes me, or how to get with him, i wanna know how can i tear myself away from him, how can i stop feelin this way for good about him?I sometimes go into skl somedays with a plan to adviod him and to not make contact with him, but as soon as i see him sittin alone in his class room, it goes outta my head and i jst go for him, I love how when he sees me he says hello and my name in such a happy manner and i love our conversations, and the fact that he tells me the he will miss me when i leave, i also hate the fact that he always tells me that im a star and that i am amazing and brillant, he has even named a day after me in the week and its dedicated to me and i get to choose wht the calss does since im leavin next month, its jst when he tells me that im his main priority coz im the highest level student hes teachin at the moment, or when a teacher shouts at me hell sit and listen to me bitch about them and hell say how he ates when t4eachers shout at ppl like coz im lieka credit to the skl, I also hate the fact how he lets me do wht i want in his deaprtment, i hate how he speaks highly abviout mt to other teachers, i Hate when he gives me reoprt cards and when i ask hm he says its the best report card in the class and i hate tht he wrote me a reoprt for my mum to read about me then said i would blush and tht he can could with one hand hwo many ppl hes ever wirtten a reoprt liek tht to in his life, I dno wht to do its the ittle things tht have all built up inside me that are makin this love inpossible to forgetr, Im not sayin he lieks or even loves me but its all of these things tht build up and it makes it harder for me to walk away and say no enough is enough coz ive liked him for 3 years now and im leaving next month and i cant go on liek this i mean i wanna get over him now so i dont get all upset and alone like when i leave coz im not wasting my life thinking about him anymorewht can i do?x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah true, i dont wnt advice but ok the walkin to clas sthin is entirely friendly so i dont get into toruble walkin past the teachers, who report you if your late, when i wealk past with him they dnt say a thing, coz he walks past them pretended to be talkin abut work to me, which i find very kind as it saves my ass every thursday!! lol
anyways i was jst slightly annoyed it at the emails, i mean i was in class, and then he send me an email, i didnt send him one?
i jst .. uft i dnt even know :/
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reader, MissKin +, writes (27 April 2008):
 To be honest, yeah it probably shows he was thinking about you. Lol but you did say you didn't want advice about whether he liked you or not and you wanted to know how to get over him - obviously spending time with him, walking to class with him and getting emails from him isn't helping!
I'm not sure though if it's good to be doing this, i mean reading into things he does if you're feeling things for him that you don't want to but at the same time i know you can't control the way you feel.
Can you not just let yourself enjoy his company, but don't let it go any further than that? I mean just put a limit on your feelings i suppose, i'm not sure. it depends how strong willed you are - letting yourself like someone without letting it go further than that physically or emotionally.
hmm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, well i guess im to blame partly i mean i ask him to do things for me liek walk em to class, but he doesnt say no he jst goes yeah sure! cmon kate... and when i went in my computing class i noticed that he had sent me an email, a jokey one.. half an hour after i had left him at the corner to go to class, so im not sayin he fancies me ro loves me but doesnt that indicate that he was thinkin of me then?
i mean coz u rendomly dont get a thought in yer head
ohh i think ill email my student kate!
jst thot id say that lol :P
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reader, MissKin +, writes (6 April 2008):
I've been through this. You love him for being so nice but hate him for everything nice because you don't want to love him. i never told anyone i ever loved my ex-secondary school teacher, or that the reason i cried so much on the last day was because i couldn't bring myself to hug him goodbye and i knew i wud never see him again because he was leaving too and he didn't seem to care.
To be honest, i never got over it until i left. and i still think about him to this day. and i know if i saw him my heart would still race and i would still feel that love for him burning inside. You can't delete how you feel like you can words from a computer screen.
You're leaving next month? That's a gud start at getting ove rhim. after that you'll have no choice to move on. you'll slowly fall into a new routine and you won't even think about him after awhile. just remind yourself there are other guys out there. start checking out the other guys. try to move yourself on. Keep reminding yourself it's never going to happen.
And tell yourself you deserve better than to be in love with someone who, by no fault of his own, can't feel the same for you and nthing can ever come of it.
My best advice to you is to leave and stop thinking about him. You'll find you'll think about him less over time, though it won't seem like it. the less you focus on your memories of him, the more those feelings will dull. i can't promise they'll go away. i can just promise you won't feel them so much when you're not around him so much. unless you go bck to visit. which i dont recommend doing until you're able to look at him without thinking about all of the stuff you've written here.
I wish i could tel you more, but i can't.
Teachers have no idea do they? Lol.
*hugs* i sincerely hope things work out for you. i wish i could advise you more but really, all i did was carry on with my life and find new things to think about, a new guy to love, someone who loves me back and someone who it's all perfect with. Don't let yourself obsess over him forever. I believe you can move on.
Best wishes and gud luck,
feel free to talk to me more about this if you want to. Sometimes just getting it all off your chest fully to someone makes it better. who knows.
Take care.
Misskin.
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