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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, so a couple of months ago i started seeing this guy (lets call him dave). I have known him for years, but didn't see him since i was about 10, 7 years later we met up and it went from there. I really did like him a lot, but he had this dream of going to be a marine in the army, and with his selection a few weeks away, he decided to end it. I was so upset. I had fallen so hard in such a small amount of time (and i never do that. ever.)But you know, i cried for a good couple of days (and he told me that he was really upset by it aswell)but then i thought i better just get over it and move on. so that was that. A few weeks later i started meeting up with my ex boyfriend again, and we managed to find better chemistry than ever before, it was really nice :) so we made it official, and it is going really well. my problem is.. i went to a party the other night and 'dave' was there.. at first i was too scared to go talk to him, but in the end he came over and talked to me. We sat down and started chatting for ages about general life and how he failed his selection and has a new girlfriend and stuff, i said to him that i was happy to hear he was doing well. Then he started stroking my leg, trying to hold my hand, telling me how he is so pleased to see me, how even though that stuff happened between us, i'm still as beautiful and nice as ever, gazing into my eyes. I really don't want it to affect me, but it has. because i spent so long getting over it, and built up a barrier against him, and then he can just break it down like that. Don't get me wrong, my boyfriend is so lovely, and i would not go back to 'dave'. But for some reason i can't get him off mind. I know this isn't a question, i just wanted to get it off my chest.Opinions welcome, thankyou :)(ps- sorry for the essay.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): Why are you still thinking about this guy? Probably because you can't have him. He sounds like a creep. Why is he hitting on you if he has a girlfriend? And why are you letting him.I would tell you to focus on your relationship with your real boyfriend, but honestly that's not the right advice for you.Not to sound harsh, but at this age your main concern should be doing well in school instead of worrying about boys. You'll have your whole life to date and have a boyfriend/fiance/husband. Nothing you said in your message indicates that you're not a good student, so please don't be offended. It's just a shame that you're worrying about this at all. You should be worrying about what college you plan on attending, not why you're attracted to some guy.You like him because you're body is being flooded with lots of hormones. That's all it is.Good luck with everything!
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