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writes:Over the spring break I began hanging out with an old friend and we began talking on the phone and texting and what not. I began to like him and I was going to tell him but the thing is, he's my friends ex so I never really told him. About a month and a half later I find out by him that he was going to ask me out but he thought that his ex would say something to me about it and be mad at me and doesn't want that. I have 2 problems. 1) When I found out he was going to ask me out, I also found out that he started dating some other girl. But I still have this strong feeling that I should tell him every time I talk to him.2)I'm friends with his ex... And hear me out... I've taken my time to think through both situations: the fact that she's my friend and that whole rule where friends just don't date friends exes, and I know it'd be weird, but she's the one who broke up with him and got over him and has a totally new boyfriend. And then I think about how it can't be THAT bad for the reason above. I mean.. she's over him... I completely respect where she's coming from but I can't help the way I feel and it's not fair if I'm doing what she wants because she's comfortable with it because I have to be happy too. So it's sort of like...I want to respect her but I also want to be happy?I know he's not single anymore... but my mind is sort of foggy about this... and I need help clearing it up. I don't know what to do...help?
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reader, ~Prissy~ +, writes (17 June 2008):
i think if she is really ur friend then she wont mind. beside if u really like him and he really likes u then hey go for it.
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