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writes: Hi everyone Me and my sister are very close even though she is 4 years older than me. I got married last year and also had a baby however I was pregnant before marriage and she been there for me. The problem is me and her best friend hate her boyfriend, he treated her so bad and I don't know why didn't i do anything about it. She cheated on him and planned to leave him last year however he played his game so well and she stayed with him after he spoke to her and purpose to her after 2 months which I find it so weird. I spoke to her and told her to watch her back cuz he will get her back as he is not a British so he might use her just to get a passport and now he is coming over to meet my family next week and I really can't be happy because i know he does not have a good intention. Plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): I agree with Cerberus. Your sister's actions in this relationship don't really sound any better than his.
I'm not sure what "truth" you can to tell her except giving your negative opinion about him. Give it once, give it well, and then don't keep pushing it on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2014): "he played his game so well"
Yeah what a prize he got in your cheater of a sister.
OP fair enough you're on her side, she's your sister but she's no angel in this at all.
You talk about him playing a game so well, he was probably on his knees begging her to stay and how he forgives her for cheating on him.
Like it or not your sister is as much a game player as he is and while it's good you want to protect her, this is her life and her choices, and frankly, OP she's fucked him over pretty badly.
Unless of course you're one of these people who thinks cheating can be justified. In fact you probably are one of those people who thinks she cheated because he wasn't nice to her or some crap.
OP you can't live your life for her, these are choices she's making herself. All you can do is be there for her if it falls apart. Your sister isn't some kind of innocent victim to this guy, she likes the game or she wouldn't play, she's cheated on him, she's probably been just as bad to him behind closed doors when you're not there, OP. You only here the shit she complains about, I bet if you heard his version to his friends they'd hate your sister and probably have good reason to too.
Let her live her life and make her own mistakes, just be there for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2014): You don't KNOW anything, you're making a guess by what you do know. You don't know the ins and outs of their relationship though, so just suggest she avoids getting pregnant any time soon and leave it at that. She's an adult, she needs to make her own choices.
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