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writes:My girlfriend suffers from depression. sometimes it's worse than others and right now it's really bad. I'm talking to the point where she can't fulfill her daily functions. She's sleeping through all of her classes and exams and missing work. Luckily her boss and co workers are like her family, so they love her and are understanding and don't fire her. But on average, she's sleeping until after 4 pm and even then could sleep later, just chooses to force herself to get up.Just today, we had lunch plans. I was worried she wouldn't be able to get herself up but she said she wanted to go really bad. well she slept through them and even though I know she's having a really hard time right now and I'm trying really hard to be supportive, it does still upset me. I sent her a text telling her we will take a rain check and I love her and to call me when she wakes. I don't want to make her feel even worse than she already does by giving her something to feel bad about. However, what about me? It makes me feel bad when this stuff happens. But I know her so well and I know it's not intentional. While she's in these bouts, she can't seem to help it. She's not always like this. In fact, it's been months and months since she has been like this. But when she goes through them, it's hell - on both her and myself. Am I handling this wrong? Or am I doing the right thing by always being patient? I want what's best for us both. this is just really hard sometimes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): She also might have ME (chronic fatigue) as well. She does need to go to the doctors... Good luck! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): Usually when we see these posts regarding people suffering from depression; they are already under treatment.
The problem is, they discontinue taking their medicine and try living without it. If they have clinical depression, there is no living without treatment. It doesn't just go away, and it will only get worse over time. She's nearly hitting rock bottom when she can't go to work or get out of bed.
Consider this an emergency and get her to her doctor.
She isn't taking her prescription(s) and the depression is deepening to the degree she is unable to function at all.
Sometimes people need a combination of prescribed medications when one medication isn't working. It may be a matter of expense and she may be unable to afford her refills. That sort of issue tears my heart out. It kills me that this can happen in America.
She may need to apply for social security disability assistance eventually; if she becomes too incapacitated.
She has to be able to support herself; and can't be collecting a paycheck, if she is missing too much work. She has to have health insurance in order to seek treatment and pay for her medicine. That is a difficult and timely process.
It is likely she is no longer on her parents' health insurance; if she is over 26, and/or not a full-time student.
I hope she is close to her family and they are aware of her present condition. It is very disheartening to know sometimes family can be distant and uninvolved.
She requires immediate attention. Do whatever it takes to get her to her doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): You can't deal with this on your own... Basically depression when it's progressed to her level, it's brain chemistry that's just stopping her getting any enjoyment out of ANYTHING. You love her and that's enough on your part.
Like tisha said, she NEEDS to get on a different medication and get some medical help. Talk to her from the heart and make t clear you love her and it's killing you to see her like it- which is why she needs to review her condition and get medical help.
You're doing great! You're a very strong and good hearted person, and you can only do your best.
Take care, good luck! :) xx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 September 2013):
 She needs to be seen by a doctor, who can examine her and diagnose her. She may have something else besides depression. Make an appointment with her doctor and get her there.
Depression isn't something you can just 'snap out' of. She can't help it.
If she is under the care of a doctor already, obviously the treatment isn't working, so it's time for a new course of treatment.
Good luck, I hope she gets it sorted.
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