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writes:I've been dating him for 4 years. His cheated on me with the same person, but each time apologizes and says its over. Now I discover she's pregnant. He wants a child (I cannot have any), so I told him go make one (jokingly) but not with her. Low and behold he goes to her, and 3 months later I am told. I love him and I know he loves me. But why would he do this? Does he really love me? He wants me to be apart of the childs life and he wants to marry me once the child is born.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 I dated my ex for 6 years. Until my fiance, he was the only man I'd ever slept with. I was sure I was going to spend the rest of my life with him and exhaustively tried to live up to his expectations of me. Despite all of that, despite telling him how much I loved him every day, he cheated on me and threw me out of my own house. He admitted later that every time he said "I love you" it was because he didn't know how to say "I'm only with you because you're safe."
This guy is a pitstain and doesn't love you. He knows it hurts when he cheats and he doesn't anyway, and gives you some piss poor apology that doesn't mean a thing and then cheats again.
If it really is the baby aspect that forced him to cheat, it means he was too much of a coward to break up with you and move on with someone who could give him the life he wants. It sucks- my roommate went through a very similar situation with his ex- he wants kids really badly and she does not. You're better off without this jerk. Why should you be responsible for his illegitimate child? If you get married, you will be, like it or not, in one way or another. He could have settled on trying to adopt with you, or becoming foster parents. He chose to be a dirtbag. Lose the luggage, sweetie. You're better than that.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Hun, he has lied and cheated - those are not signs of your bf loving you.... he is using you and since he keeps getting forgiven for cheating, he goes out and does it again knowing that he wont get into trouble.
Once the baby is born he is going to want to be with the baby and the mother of the baby and you, unfortunately are going to be delegated a spot right at the back of the line.
You will probably find that he will get closer to the baby's mother because of all the contact they will have. I think its time for you to move on with your life, without him.
He is promising marriage because he knows that you want to get married, but think about the consequences, you might have a ring on your finger but you certainly wont have a faithful and attentive husband...
Honeygirl
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reader, angel78  +, writes (12 February 2010):
Firstly if he cheats on you he doesn't love you.
Also If he really wanted a child with you there are alternatives if you can't have children.
He's lied to you and you don't lie to someone you love.
And it is going to be extremely hard and unfair on you for him to ask you to be apart of this childs life when he cheated on you to make it. You deserve way better than this guy.
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