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writes:I have a best friend who is a guy. Our mothers have been best friends since they were 15, so it was pretty much unavoidable to interact with my "aunt's" kid.*Jack* and I, by pure coincidence, are majoring in the same field in university. So we're basically taking a lot of the same classes.I, quite recently, realized how close he and I have gotten since high school graduation. We do everything together that most people think we ARE together.Problem is, I have a boyfriend... of two years. He's my second serious boyfriend (first one lasted three years in high school). Both times *Jack* has been a total b*tch about it.I mean, he's a lot more mature now than he was in high school. Now a days, he occasionally insults my boyfriend when I talk about his achievements. And he tells me he doesn't really want to hear about my boyfriend at all.It is very much obvious the guy likes me as more than best friend; I came to that conclusion right around the end of junior year of high school. And don't get me wrong, I have thought about what it would be like to date him and the thought kind of warms me inside.I'm just still not sure because I'm a bit of an idiot, I'll admit it... so I guess, in the end, I'm going to ask the most obvious question: What do I do?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Yeah, he's probably acting a little bitter because a) he likes you and b) he's protective of you. Imagine liking somebody like that for a while and seeing them date other people. He may even feel awkward about bringing it up because of how you've been friends for so long.I agree with Missprettypurple... I wouldn't suggest breaking up with your boyfriend right now, but ask yourself how you would feel if you saw your best friend with a girlfriend. Would you be jealous like he is? If you would be jealous then perhaps you might want to explore a deeper relationship with him.An even better question would be: Who would you miss more if they weren't in your life? Your boyfriend or your best friend?
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reader, Missprettynpurple  +, writes (19 March 2010):
awwww i kinda feel sorry him ,he's probably liked u 4 a whike an is finding it hard to see u with other guy.but i dnt tink u shld break up with ure boyfriend because the thought kind of warms you inside.i think u shld sit him down an discuss his feelings for u an decide ure feelings for him.if u choose 2 stay wit ur boyfriend tell jack to try an understand an get along wit ure bf bcuz he means alot 2 u an if he likes u enough an is aq gd friend he'll at least try an calm it down wit the insults an the jealousy
hope it goes well
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