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writes: i met a man last year and fell in love. we both loved each other and had some wonderful intimate moments together. he was the first man i ever slept with. few days later he moved back to him hometown and we stayed in touch afterwards. it was a long distance relationship.. He just stopped callin me couple of months back JLT.. when i asked him he said there is too much happenin in his life and he doesnt want me to get into a mess so i should move on..lots of things were happening in his life he quit his job after 15 years joined collage again. i supported him all along and helped him. he joined collage last week. Now we r not in touch .. i miss him.. i cant stop loving him. i just want things to be like before. not a day goes back when am not thinking of him or crying over this. how do i stop obessing over him? i know he doesnt love me anymore , he doesnt call me anymore but still i cant stop thinking abt the past. How do i move on??
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reader, Mariels +, writes (21 April 2006):
Hello honey,
I kind of know what you're feeling because I broke up with my man after 2 years after watching him go on a downward spiral. I think this guy probably has some issues which he needs to get sorted before he can be fully committed to you. He probably doesn't feel confident enough to be open with you about what's going on, and doesn't want to put a 'damper' on things because you both had such a good time. It seems like it could be a case of "Right person, wrong time". Give him some time to clear his head and keep your distance for a while. Let him get back on track. Then send him a card out of the blue in a few weeks/months time saying you hope he's ok and that he's doing well. I took my man to the top as well, then it got to the point where I couldn't do anymore for him - he had to do it by himself. Each person needs to experience things, whether they are good or bad, so they can adjust and grow and mature. Don't suffocate him. You make the most of yourself so that if you do decide to hook up in the future, you look mint and you're job is great, you have money in the bank and lots of friends who you love going out with. Don't come across needy. If he loves you he will come back to you when he's done his thing xx
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