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writes:Dear CupidMy girlfriend used to demand I let her know first before I leave my building. A 5-minute drive to the post office, or a walk to the corner store would enrage her if I didn't let her know first. We made some progress and she tolerates neighborhood errands and such. Now she tells me she will not bend any further and feels she made a great sacrifice already. I know accountability is important but where do you draw the line? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue Rat  +, writes (7 February 2007):
I don't think she wants a boyfriend, she wants a dog on a very short leash. I'm sorry, but that's just weird, and very controlling behaviour. You need to assert yourself much more and attain far greater come and go like normal people do, without having to report in like someone out on parole.
And if you can't get that, then I'd let her know one more move you intend to make - as far away from her as you can get.
Good luck.
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (7 February 2007):
do you kno anything about her past?
in particular do you know anything that could of created trust issues or any form of personal complexes?
its unfair she has such demands on you as it eventually crushes you and your relationship. but it seems her demands are based more out of trust or more specificly a lack of. so show her you can be trusted, proove she can have faith in you.
if that doesnt work then the case may be shes the controlling type, and thats when you need to re consider your possition because things can turn nasty and even dangerous with those types.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Way further than this! She wants to control every one of your little movements. Do you tell her how long you spend on the toilet yet?
Seriously though, she has insecurity problems which is why she's being so funny about everything. I don't know why she would be feeling like this but I know that if I heard about this situation in reverse, a guy controlling his girlfriend's every movement it would worry me incredibly and I see no reason why it shouldn't worry me just because you're a guy. It's a dangerous situation but not one that you should let continue.
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