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writes:So last year I was a junior and there was a certain English teacher/coach I has a crush on. I didnt have him as a teacher because he taught freshman english.He's a very young teacher not much of an age difference. Well last year He had overheard my conversation with my friends in the hallway. I was telling them how attractive he was well I didn't know he was walking right in back of me.things changed after that. He started saying hello to me and started conversations when he overheard me talking to me my friend about a concert we had gone to. I would see him on during the weekend at school because of our practices. I just saw him everywhere at the most random times. This all started at the beginning of last year. I'm also in cheer during pep rally's and football games he would make small talk with me joking around and laughing. He was really nice throughout the school year. The last week of school was when he started to ignore me. Like when I would walk by his class on the way to mine he would see me coming down the hall and walk right into his class. During lunch I was sitting in the concourse with a group of my friends,when he saw me he literally turned around and went the other way. This is my senior year and I thought he would be teaching at my school but I found out he went to teach at the middle school I went to. I knew for a fact he liked me, it was obvious. Should I email him now that he doesn't teach at my school? I'll be 18 anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI made up my mind & decided not to e-mail him because I think it would be a bad idea. I'll just have to wait until I run into him
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Dear 'crush'- Really?! Wake up and smell the coffee! All you could offer this man is young sex! He had varied life experiences that you obviously aren't ready for at this stage! That is why you had the coversation in the hallway with other children your age.Idle school yard chatter. Plus PREGNANCY really doesn't look good in a cheer uniform nor does a girl so desperate for attention that she would pass up all the eligible young men her age to go for a teacher that she can't possibly know much about. Let this MAN get on with his life and you prepare fo your college times where you can experience other young people your age.Give yourself time to grow up and get a fair chance at being in love and experiencing college life. It is great when you aren't tied to a whole bunch of other issues beyond your years.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 October 2011):
 He may have been threatened with losing his job. Do not send an email to his school email address, that is not private and he may suffer some serious career consequences if your email is read by someone else.
If you have a personal email address, you could email him after you are no longer a student in the district.
Many male teachers are driven out of the profession because of situations like this. Don't become a cliche. Wait until you are no longer a high school student.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I wouldn't email him till after you gradutate to be honest.
I am betting that he REQUESTED the transfer realizing that he was playing with fire...
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 i suppose there is no harm in a friendly email, but do remember that until you are 18 he legally cannot get into a relationship with you. teachers are not allowed to date minors, even though he is not YOUR teacher anymore. you say he likes you- are you sure about this because from what you wrote it sounds quite the opposite, like as it he was avoiding you. so email him just to ask how he is etc but only do it the ONCE, if you get no reply or if he replies but it looks as if he is not interested - don't chase him, leave it or else you will seem like a stalker or a pest
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (3 October 2011):
Maybe he realised what he was doing was wrong, and that if he pursued you, it could have ruined his life?
Maybe he met a girl, someone his own age like another teacher, and is happy in a relationship with her?
I don't think you should email him. You should put it down as a crush and look for love elsewhere.
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