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anonymous
writes:My now girlfriend and I met 6 months ago. We met on July 3rd, ended up exchanging numbers, and texted back and forth the next day. That next day, I brought a friend of mine back to my house, and ended up kissing her for 15 seconds before we went to sleep in a drunken state. The following day was my first date with my now girlfriend, and she'd the best thing thats ever happened to me. I'm a true believe of never cheating. I've been cheated on before, and don't ever want to give someone that feeling that I'm with.This girl I kissed, I had a past with. We slept together over a year ago, and have kissed randomly when we were both single a couple of times. I was honest with my girlfriend about this girl, and told her there was a past, and just wanted her to hear from me, and not risk of her hearing through the grapevine of sleeping with this girl a long time ago. However, I have this feeling of guilt with my girlfriend. Am i worrying for nothing? Do i need to tell her about this kiss? Did I do something wrong? I feel like i was honest about the past (sleeping with her), but not honest about the night before our first date. In my head I feel I'd be opening a can of worms with her if I tell her about this kiss.Someone please tell me the truth here, as I hope the truth is I'm worrying for nothing.
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reader, RM24  +, writes (22 November 2010):
As a girl, my advice is that whatever happens after the relationship begins is what you should be concerned about. You were not together at that point and you were not on a break. Forget about it and just make sure it doesn't happen during the relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): I understand that I shouldn't tell her, but am I wrong for doing it in the first place?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 November 2010):
 It happened before her time so thus it doesn't apply to her, nor is it considered cheating. You tell her and you risk the trust she has in you, and judging from the posts on here it's very difficult to get back.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (22 November 2010):
You kissed her before your first date, so you haven't cheated as you and your current gf weren't even going out together. So get it out of your head and move on.
Telling her will achieve nothing and you're right, it probably will open a can of worms.
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