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30-35,
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writes:I sort of blew my proposal to my now fiancee and needless to say she is very disappointed. I know the proposal is a big deal, but I still choked and am going to be stuck with that forever. I want to make it up to her, but I'm not sure how. The restrictions around it make things harder. Whatever I do needs to be within school since she's not allowd to do much outside school. She's not materialistic, nor is she overly sexual, and I've been as loving as possible. In essense she's spoiled, she's said so too, so I can't find any way to "un-disappoint" her. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Why are you proposing at 16-17 years old? That is the real puzzler here.
Undo it fast!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): i got with my partner of 16 years when i was only 17 so relationships can work when you're that young. but my partner was older so it definitely wasn't an in-school relationship. if you don't really see her outside of school then there isn't really any way you can make a relationship work. you just know how she is in the school environment... she might be totally different outside of it.
and if she's so spoilt that she's disappointed with your proposal, then is she even worth bothering with? if she really loved you and wanted to spend her life with you she'd just be thrilled that you'd asked her.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 I know when you have your first love its special and you cant see yourself being with anyone else but your 16-17 and your engaged and you do everything in school and even proposed at school its not what i would call an adult relationship, maybe you should really think through if you want to settle now, you havnt even livied together yet! Now that will test any relatonship engaged or not, re think this proposal and tell her its a promise not a proposal.
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (4 October 2007):
 well its about the feelings you 2 have for eachother and isnt all about the ring or how you do it long as you mean everything you tell her while asking her
but i say this if you cant really take her out of school than how do you know you 2 will make it?
your young dont feel tied down
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): no suggestions at all, you are 16-17 for crying out loud.
Just the example of the alleged response demonstrates how immature this whole episode is.
What are you doing even thinking about proposing for.
Enjoy your youth brother , this is not the 19th century where people got married in their teens.
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