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writes:Recently i've bin so stressed wiv things at school and home... my bro and mum and dad keep fighting and i've really fallen for somone who's got a gf. i have low self esteem anyway and my friend's family frend said i was fat when everyone else says i'm ded pretty an all this but i dnt really think so.Today and yesterdy to stop me havin to go to school and a music lesson, i stuck my fingers down my throat to make me sick. i wasnt actually sick so i just kept doing it so i would cough up flem to make it look like i'd bin sick... i feel fat a lot but im nt doing it to make me thinner... i dnt kno why i'm doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): I have been on and off bullemic (sorry cant spell) since I was 15. I am now 33. When I was 15 - 25, I just starved myself and took laxatives, but recently Ive been able to make myself sick. Ive been quite lucky that eventually b4 I get really sick that Ive managed to stop it getting worse. However, Ive been through two tough relationships with men who have dissapointed me, leaving me very confused and find it hard to trust men. I have no children and would love to meet the man of my dreams but I find it hard to open my heart. I put a brave face infront of everyone, and everyone thinks I am hard as nails but deep inside me, I am so deep and passionate but I am afraid to show my feelings. I have met someone recently and its me that gives the wrong signals out and I am finding I am probably pushing away something good. So, instead of confronting him, I make myself sick and for a while it does make myself better. That is what I want to know....why does it make me feel better, surely if it makes me feel better and as long as I control it, why should I stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): It is that simple.If you trully want to be healthy, you'll suffer through it, even if it means having someone there to refuse your every attempt to stuff your fingers down your throat.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help =] I'll try to stop and if i cant i will get help.
thanks again :) xxxx
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reader, hello kitty 101  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 ok making yourself throw up wil make you skinner im not going to lie i have done it myself. but i started getting really sick and my doctor told me that doing that was harmful to your body when you do that al the time your body gets use to it then you just start throwing up for no reason and you have no control of it that is searious you need to stop that while you can.familys fight everyone does but if it happens all the time but youjust need to have a family meeting sit them down and tell them what they are doing and tel them it bothers you and tell them what its doing to you how its affecting your home life and the things you do at school.dont let people make you feel like your fat if you are as pretty as you say you dont let childish things like that bother you, you know people make others feel bad to make themseves feel better because they have bad home lives so they make you feel like crap because thats how they feel.guys come and go but try teling him how you feel and see how that works for good luck i hope i have been helpful to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionflynn 24, it's not that simple and i think you know that.
Thank you all for the advice though, espcially the ladies. it was v kind of u to answer my question with such caring advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): You could, you know, try NOT doing that.
No matter how much you want to, just simply do nothing.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): aw sweetie :( please go and talk to your GP or if you dont feel like that a trusted friend. its really important that you've realised this is not normal and that you get help before it takes over your life. and take no notice of anyone who says you're fat, they're an idiot, i bet you're absolutely gorgeous :) and an even nicer person!!
and just remember, that things will get better!! good luck and hang in there! xx
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reader, Gwenabee  +, writes (28 September 2008):
 Sweetheart, I used to do the exact same thing as you, so I know exactly what you are going through. Telling people was a very big and brave step, something a woman, not a little girl does. I stopped by finding something I love. I sing, and when I was first stopping, I sang whenever I felt like I was going to make myself be sick. I'm not saying you have to sing, but find something that you feel you enjoy, and do that whenever you possibly can. Confronting your bulimia is the best thing you can do, and this may sound patronising, but doing this over a guy isn't worth it. I did it for the EXACT same reason, and then realised that I was better than that. I think in addition to bulimia, you may have something called BDD (Body Dysmorphia Disorder) where you physically cannot see yourself as pretty. I also had this, and what I did was look in a mirror for 3 hours, until I found something about my physical self I liked. It souds clicheéd, but I really love the way my eyes look, so I play those up all the time.I really hope this helps, and wish you all the luck in the world.Love and Blessingsxxxx
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