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anonymous
writes:This is complicated at least to me.I had posted before about being attracted to a younger guy and I'm married. It's more that I really enjoy his friendship and company. The responses were what I thought that i should limit my time with him and concentrate on my marriage. Well, since then my husband has gotten insanely jealous sensing something was going on and I explained everything to my "friend" and I think I told him too much because our relationship has changed drastically which I'm sure is for the best BUT I am totally heartbroken. I'm hurting from the problems I'm having with my husband and I hurt because I feel like I really lost a good friend. I really loved his company, he made me feel good and happy and now it's gone.I don't know what to do. I just want to cry and I can't stop. I keep saying to myself that this is how is should be and move on but it really hurts so bad.How do I stop this feeling? I can't stop thinking about him and the situation. I don't want to talk to him about it and I have nobody else I can talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): thank you for the answer and you are so right!
I guess I should have mentioned that I do see him frequently. We are both in the same organization go to the same class a few times a week so it makes it harder to avoid him. I had thought of dropping out but that would only hurt me.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (21 September 2008):
 I don't think it's HIM that you are missing.
You are missing the friendship, attention, companionship that you lack in your marraige. Somehow you found it in him, but the truth is it's NOT HIM. It could be another guy that shows you the same affection.
I can relate to what you are saying but you have to look what is missing or what you need to improve on that you are not getting with your husband and marraige.
If you got this within your marraige, you wouldn't be so hung up on this younger guy.
Young guys come into our lives and raise our confidence and make us desirable again. If you look at the whole picture, he realize now that he has his whole life ahead of him, but somehow he's gotten mixed up with a married women. Let him go because you are right. It is for the best. Time will heal your heart, but until then you need to look at the deeper issue. if you are not happy in your marraige, either go to counseling to work it out or end it and move on so that you can find the happiness that you are searching for. You create your own happiness and most of the time we find it within ourselves. Best of luck.
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