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writes:This isn't really a "love" question, just wondering what the hell I should do...My (ex) best friend and I've been best friends since our sophomore year of high school - that's three years. We got together with our boyfriends within five months of each other (I got with mine before her) and we're still with them two years later. My boyfriend and I (including her own family and most of our friends) do not like her boyfriend. In fact, there was a point (an eight-month gap) where my ex-best friend and I barely talked at all because her boyfriend told her not to. I told her a couple weeks ago that I thought her boyfriend was cheating on her and of course, she just HAD to mention my name in the conversation when she confronted him about it. Last night over AIM, he told me that her family and I should stay out of his business or else he will do something drastic and he doesn't care if he ends up in jail as long as my ex-best friend is his forever. I've also noticed bruises on her arms when she hangs out with me right after she's hung out with him.The only reason I'm not doing anything right now is because he and my boyfriend have P.E. together until October 23rd and I'm really hoping this psycho doesn't try anything stupid with my boyfriend because if my boyfriend goes to jail (trust me, my boyfriend could take this bastard any day), he will be at a loss for a pilot's job and it will be all my fault. My boyfriend's the one I essentially got the information from, but like, he didn't even tell me a damned thing about it all; it was me that came up with this conclusion by putting two-and-two together. I'm scared shitless because I don't want him messing with my boyfriend and I now have no best friend, and I'm already on thin-ice with my boyfriend (that's a whole, other, long-as-hell story) and I don't want him breaking up with me if he can't get a pilot's job.It's all a sick, twisted story and I hate my situation! I need help...now! Please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Youch.
Tough problem.
There is no way of ending this without at least one of you getting hurt.
My advice is to record any and all communiques with your friend or your friend's violent boyfriend. Make sure you catch the wife-beater being an asshole and make you manipulate him into revealing he beats his wife.
If he does and you catch it on tape. Go directly to the police. Tell no one. Especially not your friend. And tell them what you know and show the evidence you have collected.
This means he will have no warning of his arrest. No chance to run or do anything.
If all else fails, hire a private detective to keep tabs on the bloke and do the above for you.
Your friend might hate you for it, but thats better then her being beaten all the time.
Flynn 24
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