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writes:I know it sounds absolutely wrong! Because it is. I just came back from my holiday (back where I came from birth so it was like a family reunion) And well he was obviously there because he's my nan's youngest brother.. He's middle age i guess.. (44) I dunno if that changes anything. Somehow we gotten very close. Like holding hands and putting our arms round each other. (it looked like he wanted to hold my hand because we werent very close in the beginning. The thing I somehow like about him is not because of his looks but his sense of humour. And for me I'm not a person who is easily amused. He makes me smile and laugh and makes my day brighter everyday. Sadly he's obviously married with children who are around in there early 20's. Both boys. I miss him badly but I didnt dare make a move on him like any sexual move. I know its way wrong. He looks at me as well in a sexual way. And thats when I started to have sexual fantasies. I'm not saying I want to do anything to him because its impossible.But somehow I miss him how he holds me. .. Dear people what on earth should I do. (Im only 14 =[) I dont want a shot at him just need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. Somehow I cant pm you guys... =[
Anyway just dropped in to say thanks!
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reader, Robert Ritchie +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Hello There.
Firstly, you should not feel any guilt by what you are feeling as your feelings are pertectly normal and match your current age and stage of puberty.
Your feelings and hermones will be all over the place for the best part of two years as your body is making the transition from chilhood to adulthood and all of your thoughts and feelings will be magnified and enhanced.
Your uncle is the one who has to be responsable and make sure he does not take anything any further as this would not only be morally wrong bu illigal and can carry a prision sesntance should he take a step too far.
You should be made aware of the difference of family effectionate touching, such as holding hands and putting your arms around each other, to the emotions and feelings that come from other forms of intimate touch. What is happpening with you now is your feelings are clouding your judgement and making you readt too much into what is normal family touching and nothin more than that, should you feel your uncle is looking and treating you as a boyfriend you should stop further contact with him and talk to your family about this actions.
You will have sexual feelings and fantasies about may people including family members and this is total normal as both you and your body are experementing with different fantsy situations to prepair you for when the real time comes.
Dont worry about anythign just feel able to talk to your parents or other close family members about this situation, no one will sould at you or be mad, I promise.
Should you need any more help or advice, please feel free to get in touch.
Good luck.
Robert Ritchie
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