i think its natural for all humans to look at people and think 'what do they have that i dont dont'. we've all looked at couples and asked why he/she is with him/her.

but envy isnt a sin for other peoples benefit, its for ours. modern life has us all wanting to be who and what we're not, to be mr muscle or miss world.

but as the saying goes 'variety is the spice of life', we're meant to be different.

what you need to do, is not work out how your the same as her but how your different. something you have that she doesnt, we all have our own selling point.

even better, you could focus on a lad whos going to go for all your selling points, and will be single enough to take them.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

i no what it feels like i have been through the same problem twice try your hardest to forget about it go and do somthing with your friends and ask them for advice if you have good friends they should help you i have learnt from my experiance it makes you stronger it made me stronger in a weird way it is a good thing this happens to a lot of people try out new ways to look good do your hair diffrent or wear a bit of make-up hope everything goes well

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

Sure it is easy, stop comparing yourself to the girlfriend because you are judging apples and oranges, neither of you are the same and neither one of you is better looking. Beauty is really in the eye of the beholder.

Don't focus on a guy who is unavailable to you, people want what they can't have but that is no reason to be pining over this one boy and beating yourself up over not being the one he chose, you never know, you may find someone you like better, or he will most likely be single again at some point.

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