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writes:If you're aware that you have addictive personality traits and are prone to depression, should you completely avoid something which you could quite easily become dependent on? I can be a rather obsessive person; I tend to get fixated on things which excite me and often struggle with compulsive eating. Knowing this, I've never touched alcohol. Recently though, every time I pass a pub and the doors are open I feel such a pull to have a drink that I find myself stopping to look inside... I suppose these feelings are coming about because of how down I've been these past few weeks. Although the binge eating is something which I have a certain degree of control over, I'm worried that if I start drinking I'll be lost. My boyfriend doesn't understand my reluctance to try alcohol (it's a big part of his social life - which in itself concerns me a bit - and he thinks I'm missing out) and I have no idea how to explain. I don't know what to do. Trying to keep away from drink altogether for the rest of my life isn't really dealing with the problem at base, but it feels like the only solution. Is it?Many thanks in advance for any advice given. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): You are not dealing with it. You seem to really know yourself and the tendencies you have. I dont know if one drink would affect you or not, but because you seem to think you would get addicted, it could be better to stay away from it. I would suggest going to an AA meeting. Not because you are an alcoholic or anything like that, but those meetings really do help your mindset. I went to a recovering drug addicts meeting with my friends a few times. I'm not a druggie but i found that it gave me a better out look. It was just a good experience overall and might be something you should look into.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 I think you are being wise and very aware of your personality and avoiding something that has a high risk to harm you.
By any chance, does anyone in your family have a high risk of alcholism or sustance abuse?
Let your bf know that you choose not to drink for valid reasons. Either he respects it or gets another gf.
I had a friend that did not drink simply because he did not like the taste of it. He saw NO reason to. His male friends gave him such grief for it, as they felt it made him less of a man. His response was that someone had to remind them was sober looked like, and it made him MORE of a man to know himself.
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