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writes:okay so I was talking to this guy named Victor for about a month. He seemed very interested in me.He sent me love letters.He would call me 3 times a day just to see how my day was going.We would talk all night about anything. He always made me laugh and smile. He would always tell me that he wanted me to be his princess.That I was his dream girl.He always told me that I was perfect and that he felt lucky to be to talking to me. We hung out and then all of a sudden he tells me that he didn't feel a spark or chemistry.Of course I was crushed.Now me and him are just trying to be friends but its hard.I want to know why he rejected me I don't believe he didnt feel anything I want to know the truth..Do you think its bad if I ask him why he rejected me??? I mean I just want to know why..
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (16 September 2009):
 I would add to the last bit of advice you got on this thread.1) When you make "a connection" is made with someone online, via text and/or phone and/or email, it doesn't always hold up to physical chemistry when you meet in real-life.Connecting without meeting is NOT the same thing as connecting using the other methods. If online dating is your method of choice for meeting people, bear that in mind or you WILL face further disappointment. 2) When something starts out hot and intense (late night phone calls, contact three times a day for a month, etc.) it burns OUT just as quickly.Mystery is sexy. Hold something of yourself back for those who have demonstrated they genuinely care for you by sticking around for a while AFTER meeting you face-to-face.3) You will never get over him while you are his friend. You have a very limited amount of time invested in this guy. Cut your ties and move on. Friendship is only possible when you no longer see him in a romantic sense.4) Being rejected by anyone can be hard to swallow. It hurts, and I feel for you. But ultimately the "why" doesn't matter. You aren't likely to understand it and even if you were told "this is the reason", it would not help you feel any better. He just "doesn't feel it" and he may not know why himself. Don't ask. Just allow yourself to be disappointed, cheer yourself up, move on, and learn from this...Good luck.
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