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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello,I suffer from social anxiety and shyness.This has been a development only in last few years after I finished school.During school days I was genuinely very happy with many friends and a carefree attitude.Now,I am always very self conscious and nervous all the time and avoid any meaningful interaction with others.It has become impossible for me look at another person and hold their gaze for more than half a second.I have become a creep.I don't have any friends and am constantly thinking whether I'm going to screw things up.I want to have a social life again and not be concerned about how I am being perceived .Everyday I just wish I could function like a normal human being without making other people uncomfortable in my very awkward persona around them. Does anybody have any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2016): I have this issue myself it is hard to overcome you have to actively work at it.i still struggle to look people in the eyes sometimes but i am alot better than i used to be.i work in a very people orientated job and i have tried to make my weakness my strength. I challenged myself and chose voluntry and paid jobs that forced me to interact with people lots because i would never do it otherwise. I discovered i like helping people especially those who are bullied or shy. I don't have any close friends just my family and bf but i am able to deal with people in a job role and get good feedback off people.You will only overcome your fear by doing it as much as you can. I don't think it ever goes away completely as is part of who we are, but if you challenge yourself i think you will be suprised by what you can do and the value you will have to other people.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 Okay well first off you are not a creep. It sounds to me like you just need a little help. Your mind is a powerful thing. Do you know off any reasons why this might have developed? Did anything happen after you left school that made you feel uncomfortable? Have you been stressed?
I think the best way to over come this is to practice having a conversation in the mirror. Stand up straight and try and feel confident. Remember to think positive things about yourself. Every morning tell yourself five good qualities that you have. It will be a positive start to the day.
With Social Anxiety I think the biggest problem is fear. Fear that someone might think we are strange or unnormal. Then it builds up in our head to a point that it effects us from day to day. I recommend cognitive therapy. Goodluck.
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