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writes:i moved from england to the united states around 2 years ago. i fell in love with an amazing guy around 1 year ago. we were togeter for around 10 months and for the first 7 it was incredible. for the last three we've been consantly on and off as he couldn't seem to decide whether he wanted to be with me or not.he called it off again a couple of weeks ago, saying that he wasn't ready to be in a relationship cause he was too stressfull and couldn't balance everything at the same time. he said that he did love me and that he wanted us to be together soon. well, i took this as an excuse too call it off and an easy way to get rid of me. so last week i found out that i would have to move back to england in 4 months at the latest so i decided that i didn't want to wait that long cause the only thing i have for me here is this guy ,who i don't have anymore. so i made the decision that i was going to leave in two months time. my ex found out. and he got really upset and sent me text messages saying that he wished he never knew me and that he didn't deserve for me to be with him anyway. and that he was serious about wanting to be with me and making it special. so i went to talk to him about it and he was literally baulling and he just lay with me and cried for about an hour. so i left things saying that i would think about things and not make a decision yet, as he told me he just needed me to be patient with him. but then we had a fight at the weekend. and after that i decided that too much has happened for us to be together again so i need to leave, maybe as soon as next month. i haven't told my ex yet. i really want to but he wont talk to me. i've tried calling him and texting him but i get no response and i don't want to be overbearing. i really just want a proper chance to say goodbye to him. i know it's selfish but i feel like i need to know that what we had/have was real and meant something. i really feel like i need to see him just one more time and let him no how i feel about him. i love him more that anything and although it breaks my heart to leave him, knowing that it was real and knowing that he knows exactly how i feel about him would make it a lot easier on me. what should i do? i really need him to know that i'm leaving and that i am so thankful for everything we had but he wont even talk to me and it's really not something i can convey over text message or email.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): I've been in a similar situation, only a little more complicated. However, telling him how you feel will help give you closure. When I left my ex because he couldn't decide and I decided to move 4 hours away-we didn't talk for about 6 months. The whole time I was agonizing over not being able to tell him how I really felt and during that time I was just not over him. Finally, after all that time we were able to tell each other how we felt and it definitely brought closure. You may not be able to tell him how to feel until after you leave, but that's ok. Honestly, you don't want to waste your time on a guy like that anyway. When they don't know what they want and string you along, playing with your emotions; they're at a very selfish stage that they may or may not grow out of. Just do what you need to do and tell him how you feel EVENTUALLY. You will feel better. You will probably still think about him and miss him, but getting your feelings out in the open will be helpful.
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