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female
age
30-35,
*hitney-x
writes:I've been on and off with this guy for almost a year now; and about 2 weeks ago we broke up while i was away, but he didn't really give me a decent reason.- so then I was major sad, trying to figure out why he finished things when it was perfect before i left.So anyway, a day before i was due back, he sent me number of txt's saying "come online" "i wanna speak to you" "we need to talk". SO when i went online he was all like heey :D, you okay, and I was like that's a pretty pathetic question dont you think?, and he was like whats wrong? So i was thinking ah god, idiot, so i just told him not to bother. SO then he asked me if the day i returned i would go and see him, 'cause he wants to tell me something. I told him that i'd just see him in school, because i didnt thnik it was the best thing to do ('cause i was still really upset). So anyway, school the next day. NOTHING. not even a hi or good holiday? just randome looks from the distance from him. then like on the thursday he started making convo with me in class, just winding me up saying that he has a better tan than me etc, and just genrally being flirty. Then later that day, he txt me for me to get out of my class; so i did. I asked him what's up, and he replied "nothing i just wanted to see you" then he hugged me; and looked down on me, giving me one of those stares that a guy givess you when he's all like; i cant explain it really. Then as we parted to go back to our classes he stayed there,and just looked as i walked a way, and gave me a smile. Then the next day, in the first class we had together, just little stares across the room, smiles. Then we had social studies together, we had just had fitness; so i was sitting at the back with my girlfriends as usual,with him and his mates sitting infront of us, so i put the fan on, and his excuse was "im gonna come sit next to you, 'cause the fan eint hitting me by here" Then his mates were like "oh aye, look at ***** going to sit by whitney (me). - from here il just give you the short version of our class.he began moving his chair closer to me,and i was playing with my nails, trying to get the vanish off, and he allways winds me up trying to stop me. So he grabbed my hands and wrapped them up in his, I can't describe the feeling that went through me at that point, it was just like, a realief. So then i playfully said you like bullying me don't you? And he whispered "maybe i'm just looking for a excuse" I gave him a smile back [; . Then i had my hands resting on my lap; he touched my hand lightly, i looked at him + we both smiled then just automaticlly held hands, and then he put his arm around me, and just gentley blowed in my ear.Now right now, I don;t understand what's going on, he breaks up with me, but yet he's doing all this.- what do i make of this?- I just want him to know how much this is hurting me, but at the same time, it's making me feel that we still have that conection.I just can't put into words how he's making me feel.help?x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 November 2008):
Yeah he's messing you around a lot here. But do you know why?
You are letting him.
You have at no point said "so what was so important that you wanted to talk about?" you just sat and worried yourself sick.
You have at no point said "You can't hug me since you dumped me and said you don't want to be with me. So make your mind up and stop trying to play mind games."
Tell him to either be your boyfriend, or leave you alone because he's playing mind games and you don't want to be friends with some one who likes hurting people like that.
Be strong and stop letting him do this to you.
Good Luck!! xx
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