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writes:Im in highschool dont have many friends. Never really fit in with anyone. Most of my friends have moved away, droped out or just stoped being my friend. I used to be made fun of real bad in middle school and I was in lots of fist fights. Im 6 foot 2 and weigh 250. Ive never had a friend that was a girl until this year. Ive never had a girlfriend either.... I have this crush on this girl thats not in any of my classes and she probably doesnt even remember me. Im to much of a coward to talk to her or any girl I dont really know. It bothers me all the time when I see couples or hear what my friends did with there girlfriends. At this point I dont care about sex or any of that I just want a girl that likes me and makes me feel special. Im also worried that If i do get a girlfriend she will think im bad. I have a crap for a family. My parents hate each other. My dad looks like a monster from being seriously burned last year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): www.plentyoffish.comI met my husband on there. Maybe it would be more comfortable for you to talk to someone online?Be careful. Being in the military makes it difficult to find the right woman for you, because a lot of women out there would LOVE to date a military guy...for the money. Anywas, I met my husband online, we added each other to yahoo messenger, chatted, met, hung out, started dating. Dated for about a year. Got married and been married for nine months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): that sounds like typical military talk there…wanting a girl waiting for you back home, but that's a bit selfish i think and detrimental to a relationship…it becomes hard to form and work on a relationship when you're not even around one another to nourish it…as far as being embarrassed about your parents…a girl who really cares about you shouldn't judge you based off of your family…and you're dad, well you shouldn't be ashamed…it's quite sad really…just explain it to her prior to so that she can be prepared for what she sees…they could maybe have a light discussion about it the first day if your dad was cool w/ it jsut to get it out there in the open and not act like there wasn't anything different
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reader, marine550 +, writes (23 April 2009):
marine550 is verified as being by the original poster of the question No im not going to bootcamp any time soon. At least a year before I can join and another before I can actually leave for boot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Why do you have a very low self-esteem?
And why are you looking for a girl right before you head off?
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reader, marine550 +, writes (23 April 2009):
marine550 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow that was fast. Thanks for the helpful responses.Im not really fat or overweight. Just that girls have said im huge (that a good thing)? Im in good shape right now. I can run a mile in 7 minutes. I go mountain climbing on weekends and play paintball. Id just like to get a girlfriend before I go to bootcamp in the marines in a year or 2. The part I mentioned about my family is that im embarrassed if I ever had a girl over my house. Ive always chickened out last minute before asking a girl out I like. Some stupid excuse like she would of said no anyways. Im sure you probably figured it out but I have a very low self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Oh honey.. any decent girl is not going to run away because your father has been burned and your parents don't get along..
You really sound like a sweetheart with some low self-esteem. (which would be reasonable at this point).
If you at least act like you are confident it can do wonders. I've seen the most unpleasant-looking people have pretty pleasant-looking significant others and TONS of friends, because of the way they act.
I'm not good with men's weights but if you are not happy with yours, then that is simply up to you to control. (unless it's uncontrollable for medical reasons, in which case i deeply apologize!).
I'm afraid i don't really know how to help you too much.. but be patient. you are so young. there is someone out there for you. Please don't give up hope.
There was no real question asked here but if you have one that you're afraid to post then feel free to send me a private message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): i met my boyfriend at my first job one summer…he went to another school…apparently at his school, he was really shy and prior to meeting me had been really quiet and inward and dressed kinda grungy…well i made him over…got him a nice hair cut, we went shopping, and i gave him a little ego boost…
well, i was his first kiss…i made sure that he got kissed before he turned 18 (about a week before!) anyways, when he went back to school for his senior year, everyone was so impressed…people didn't recognize him, girls were hitting on him, and he even had a little fan club of underclassmen girls form
appearance does matter, as well as how you carry yourself and the vibe you put out, if you're moping around all day, then no one will want to be around you, b/c then you'll make them feel mopey too, or if you think you suck, then why would anyone else disagree? confidence is key…even just faking it… even models hate the way they look sometimes (crazy, right?) going to the gym couldn't hurt either…it will make you look and feel better—releasing endorphins (happy chemical) while you work out and stretch…try a new hobby too…maybe something you've always wanted to try, but have been too afraid to…what do you have to lose
have you ever watched MADE before on MTV? they do a really great job of taking high school kids, particularly those who are overweight and hide from their peers, and they turn them into outgoing, social, and well-dressed teens…
i love doing make overs…i am very forgiving…and like matching up what fits with peoples true hearts…and not just a standard for what everyone should be like, but tailoring it to individual personalities…if you ever need tips on this sort of thing i am the one to do it…proven results! giving boys make overs and getting them chicks is my specialty!
go to the gym, get yourself in shape, get your hair done, get some cool clothes, be happy, recognize that NO ONE is perfect and see yourself for your positive qualities, remember that God made us all equal and that no one is better than anyone else…do all these things with the idea in your head that you're not doing these things to get friends or to get a girl, but for yourself…if you love yourself (humbly) then other people will most likely find you to be likable as well, and just smile! a SMILE can go a long way…start waving, saying hello, and throwing little smiles to strangers…it's amazing how they can brighten peoples days…then you might start feeling more comfortable talking to people you do know as well
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