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writes:Hi im feeling very lonely x I've been living with my partner for 6 months or so but I known him all my life,although he never showed any interest in me before his divorce 18 months ago,he also can drink sometimes say 4 nights out of 7 a large bottle of cider,anyhow I'm quite over weight and not feeling sexy at all,cutting a long story short he struggles to stay hard especially when on top it last all of about 2 mins,and even goes soft if I suck him,but hard if he wanks or when we have occasionally watched porn,even when I was slim he never showed interest,I was your typical big boobed slim blonde which when I first met him I quickly gathered he wasn't into,he prefers slim dark hair skin and no boobs! He's just not into me ishe,I'd prefer it straight as I am on my diet I've lost 10ib in a week coming off medication so I'm aiming to be a size 10 to 12 by April and just need to feel loved in the bedroom! I'm to blame to as due to being over weight he's never seen me naked always in anighty not sexy at that,help what do I do ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 December 2013):
 YOU are NOT to blame.
stop owing something that is not yours to own.
first of all what is a LARGE bottle of cider... if that's like a quart of beer... 4 nights a week... that's going to affect his erections. so does smoking or lack of exercise.
I think he just went with you as the default setting... and you need to get out of the relationship... he's never going to be the man you want or need.
IF he likes dark skinned dark haired girls with no boobs and you are not that, he's not going to change.
You are at fault for staying with him and settling for him because you believe yourself not lovable or attractive.
I'm sure with a bit of self confidence you could go out and walk and turn heads...
I suggest you work on feeling GREAT about yourself... get a makeover... learn to do your hair and makeup and wear GREAT foundation garments (good supportive bras and a bit of spanx to hold the jiggle) and wear clothes that FIT... too big looks sloppy and too tight can make you look bigger than you are...
THIS relationship is not the one you need..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2013): "You need to find someone who will see the sun shine from your ass" useful quote I read on here.
Find a guy who doesn't use porn in a relationship. I am!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (3 December 2013):
 Well if he is not into you, then its time to let this man go and find someone that loves you and appreciate you. He wasn't into you when you were thin and why do you think now that you are losing weight will change him interest.
I think its great you are losing weight and working on your confidence, I just think its wasted on him. Time to lose the douche bag and go shopping.
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